emilynghiem
Constitutionalist / Universalist
Nope sorry anotherlifeIs this the newest abstinence con? Be careful girls, if you look in the direction of a man, you will get pregnant! Then there goes your health.
It is sooo amazing, how old sexually frustrated bullies wield power over poor unsuspecting young people, to turn them miserable too.
So let's cut through the con, and state the simple fact, that there is no reliable relationship without sex. Those who agree to a "relationship" without sex, are insecure and codependent, a bigger sickness than any std.
If people are abusive bully types they will do that in relationships with or without sex.
If people are reliable and respectful with relationships they will do the same with or without sex.
The sex adds more emotional bonding and deeper interconnection, but the underlying relationship is still there, and is either built on mutual respect or on an unequal foundation.
I found that the same people who are Jerks in their platonic relations will apply the same biases to romantic relations. The sex isn't going to fix or makeup for what's going on or going wrong!
At most, people may have more Motivation to fix communication and respect issues when it affects their love life and romantic relations. But in all the people and relations I've known, the same patterns in sexual relations are already projected by both partners on all their other relationships as well. They just show up more prominently in their personal relations because these are more sensitive emotionally. But the same two people carry the same biases and behavior in other relations with other people, whether sex is involved or not. The bullies still bully, and just because sex is involved doesn't magically change that pattern.