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Try reading before you puke all over the board. You're still getting your people confused, dumbshit.
Yeah, I can't imagine why you have difficulty conducting successful life relationships, what with thinking you're going to make friends via an anonymous message board on the Internet. Even if I WERE stupid enough to think, "I believe I'll try to become lifelong bosom buddies with a total stranger online", I wouldn't have chosen you, because then I'd have to listen to this belly-aching and self-pity all the time. This way, at least I can just ignore you when you become too annoying.
Once again. You laid all this crap out here for everyone to see and pick through. I didn't mysteriously read your mind. You're just pissed off that you expected everyone to say, "Oh, you poor dear. You've suffered so much. You're right, divorce SHOULD be easy so that little angels like you, who've been victimized through no fault of their own, can escape." Now that you instead got told that you and your parents bear some of the responsibility for your lousy life, you're outraged that anyone would DARE to comment on your life.
Really, you are like a textbook of relationship and inappropriate intimacy issues.
Oh, yes. I'm in a frenzy to be heard and acknowledged. That's why I'M the one who got all nasty and vituperative about "My parents were horrible, and divorce is a good thing, and HOW DARE YOU SAY OTHERWISE!" Oh, wait. I wasn't. I was the one who said that you can't outlaw divorce completely, which you then repeated at the end of the post in which you had kittens over how attacked you felt as though you were saying something deep and profound that I hadn't considered.
Project much, sweetie?
And I just love the "I didn't tell you about my life. I only told you about my crappy childhood. That's not my life."
Of course I don't make much effort to keep straight which one of you is sniveling about what. That's because I didn't ask, and don't care, and would be immensely grateful if you would either stop telling me, or pay me the same rate you're giving your therapist to listen to this crap.
Cecilie Wrote:
You said far more than that - which is why I think you're seeing the responses you've been seeing.
I agree with you that sometimes people get married to the wrong people because they aren't careful. But sometimes, people marry people they think they love - and those people turn out to be abusive shits...
I agree with you that parents have to be role models in marriage - and that a big reason divorce is becoming so common is because we are losing examples of people who make the decision every day to make their marriages work.
But I think it some instances, far fewer than people actually want to admit, but in some instances....divorce is the best and necessary option.
I think there was probably a far nicer way to say what you were trying to say...but, as I said before, I agree with you that if people are going to bring their personal lives to the table...they shouldn't be surprised when their personal lives become the subject of the conversation.
All I know is that I think Cecilie1200 is way over due for getting laid. LOL!
And that's all I'm going to say. Now back to giving this place the silent treatment ....
lol, you need to get a life or a job.
If your only intent is to troll responses, spewing hatred as fast as you possibly can, rather than read them and responding accordingly, and then make some smartass comment when you're called on your mistake, I suggest you find yourself a new board.
If you're actually here to discuss, feel free to stay.
Nice try. Well, no, it wasn't.
Now that you and Gigi have both admitted that I'm right and flounced off to sulk, perhaps the rest of us can get back to discussing the topic instead of having to hear your little group-therapy sessions.
Spoken like someone who's never been viewed as the solution to sexual frustration.
What in the name of God were you doing getting married at 16?
Unlike you whose photo is treasured by men trying hard to practice abstinence?
Cece, you're a hoot!
I didn't say anything about "pretend to like each other", sweet cheeks. You're still acting like I think their emotional fuzzies are important. I said they should behave like rational, civilized adults who recognize that when you make a small human being who is dependent upon you, your bliss with the universe takes a backseat.
I hate to break it to you, but marriage is NOT about "emotional fulfillment".
That other adult is your business partner, your co-worker, your team mate that you work with to get shit done in life. If you can sit on your distaste for the guy in the next cubicle every day of your working life and be polite to him in order to keep a job, then you can DAMNED well maintain a civil working relationship with the person you made a baby with.
I'm not saying you have to play huggy-smoochy-face for the kiddies, because I can promise you they don't care. I AM saying that if you can refrain from screaming invective at your dipwad supervisor and put in the effort to find calm, diplomatic ways to get your job done, then you can take your spouse aside into the bedroom and discuss your problems in the same tone of voice, instead of shrieking at each other in front of God and everyone in a glorious display of childish self-indulgence.
Yeah, that direct quote from Wallerstein herself certainly shows that I "misinterpreted" her work.
Horse hockey. People govern themselves all the time in every other aspect of their daily lives, but somehow, they suddenly revert to wailing babies with dirty diapers when it comes to their marriages?
You'll excuse me if I point out that you seem to have a vested interest in people treating their marriages like disposable napkins, what with your professional life being tied up in divorce and all.
Only "limitation" I can see to those conclusions is the fact that you might be taking a pay cut if more people grow the hell up.