actual evidence that gays are bringing down society?
I like the way everyone's changed his tune. Before gay marriage was approved in Mass., conservatives worked themselves into froth about how it would destroy society. Well, it's been a while now, and Massachusetts is thriving. When's the sky going to fall?
I'm not making generalizations about gays based on those I know. I'm simply saying that those I know don't fit the generalizations that homopprobes here are making. All it takes is one counterexample to disprove a theory. If your theory is that all gay people are dysfunctional, then a single functional, happy one, should disprove it, and force you from black-and-white thinking on the issue to more gray thinking.
I'm perfectly aware that I'm talking about a particular, very privileged and highly educated group of people.
I don't agree with the ivory tower thing, though. I'm not a crusty academic who never leaves the office. I'm a physician who works in an underserved community (deaf people). I travel extensively. I spend most of every workday with people who are poor, disabled, or undereducated--or all three. I mentioned my gay friends--but I know far more gay people as patients, and I'd have to say the same is true of them--their homosexuality seems like part of them, and is painful only to the extent that others don't accept it as such.
I've previously mentioned the superb book by physician Abraham Verghese, an internist who began seeing gay patients in Tennessee early in the epidemic. Towards the end of the book, which poignantly portrays the problems of closeted life in a rural, traditional, culture, he has an epiphany: how did all these gay people get AIDS? Because they went to the cities, NY and SF especially. Why did they do that? Because their form of love was not acceptable at home. What if they had been able to have long-term, accepted relationships in their own communities? Well, then they wouldn't have had to travel, wouldn't have experienced the low self-esteem that leads to promiscuity, and wouldn't have caught AIDS. In other words, a major driving force behind the AIDS epidemic is homopprobrium. A powerful point worth dwelling on. The AIDS virus doesn't know if it's infecting a gay man or woman.
Here's more food for thought. All those disease--e.g. measles, mumps, and rubella--which decimated the American Indians, were acquired by Europeans from their livestock. Were they having sex with their animals? Maybe, maybe not. There are plenty of other ways for a virus to pass from animal host to human host.
Mariner.