Unfortunately, even if both parents are physically there, that doesn't mean they are really "there" for their kids. I think a lot of people just have kids because it's a status symbol or just something that is expected of them, and the kids are more like objects than people. I was just looking at a video on another thread where a little boy freaked out screaming on an 8-hour airplane flight. The mother had absolutely NO control over this child. She wanted to rely on the iPad to do her child rearing for her. Instead of sitting that child down and disciplining him properly, she wanted to just occupy his attention with something instead of using it as a teaching/learning experience for the child, and that is BIG problem I think.
DOES ANYONE EVER STOP TO THINK of the possible connection between all this school violence and other behavior problems and attitudes and kids 24/7 obsession with smartphones and games? Kids are now being RAISED online in software and in chat-rooms. Kids around here never even come outside to play.
I have. Also when kids are told in school their parents are wrong about the existing society does not help either. It disrespects the role only a parent can play in framing a reality based opinion for his/her child to emulate, or not. None is for lack of trying if the parent is responsible.
A teacher has NO BUSINESS commenting on a child's home life or what his parents teach him---- stick to the reading, writing and math, and if my kid came home and told me I didn't know what I was talking about, was wrong or disrespected me because his school teacher TOLD HIM SO, I would beat the flying crap out of that teacher and they would never see or touch my kid again or I would sue the school and take him out of there and never pay another cent tax to that school district, after me and my kid had a "stiff" talk as well. To be an effective parent, you must be the first and last and final word on everything in your kid's life or eyes otherwise you might as well just walk away.
. But what if you were an abusive parent on drugs or an alcoholic ?? Would your post still ring true for all children or students that a teacher might try to help ?
Is your school really the watchdogs of the community now? Who the hell is this teacher to think it is their place to "help?" Are they now community counselor? Degreed in social psychology? Ready to take your kids off of you at the slightest suspicion? Who works for who? I thought you sent your kids there to learn geography, history and science. Do you really need one more government agency subtly snooping into your life? I know I don't. "Does your parents own any guns, son? Do they ever hit you? Does your parents drink? Smoke? Where'd you get that bruise on your leg, boy? Anyone ever touch you funny? Do you feel safe at home, junior? Have your parents ever yelled at you? Any "funny" people ever come to visit your folks?"
What next, someone checking to see what you get in the mail? The kind of places you shop? What about the kind of friends you keep? Hobbies you have? Why stop there---- let's put a ******* camera in the house to watch you day and night! Where does it stop? You know, the Soviets used to have neighborhood watchdogs who would "report" anyone they thought was a malcontent. They got food for their trouble. Turned out that if you got too hungry, you just had to "turn someone in" to get fed. Pretty soon it was a popular job, I mean, why go hungry like the others? Best you stayed on the "good side" of your neighbors.
The road to Orwell's 1984 is paved with good intentions. People aren't perfect, but if your kids are not yours to raise as YOU see fit, best you can, then whose are they? The school's? The community? You just get to pay for all of their costs to raise them. Maybe that's the problem now, the schools are getting so deep into kid's heads, their lives, some kids just need to fight back------ take a gun to school. Can you imagine being a kid and having the weight of this "big brother" pressing down on you as you helplessly go there everyday forced to deal with it and learn?
Obviously, if there is some real problem, if someone really needs help, it should eventually get its needs made felt, but no one can be all things to all people. I grew up next door to a family where the kids were always getting yelled at and beaten. We used to cringe. I never needed that. Those kids grew up to be solid gold. Who were we to judge what worked for them or was needed? It comes down to privacy, everyone deserves some personal privacy. Not Big Brother. It's not a perfect world and no one can make it one by making the world 1984. It always starts with good intentions.