Should You Love Others Before Yourself?

[Road Runner]

I was just thinking about some of the things that my man and I say to one another all the time and think should we really be saying it as do we even know the full meaning of it?


"Are you on the menu?" Has been something that has been used between us for years but now that I stop and think about it, even though it's been used in a joking matter we're not cannibals and my man (who has questioned me this more often) has recently started seeing my point.


The second one is "I love you more than I love myself." We've both used this phrase MANY times but what does it even mean? Do I even love him more than I love myself because if I did I don't think that I would be speaking up every time I feel like he's done something to upset me and just treat me however he wants to as I've put my happiness first in this relationship although his happiness means the world to me too.

 

[Woodznutz]

If you love yourself, you'll have love to give to others. If not, you won't. You can't give something that you don't have.

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

I was just thinking about some of the things that my man and I say to one another all the time and think should we really be saying it as do we even know the full meaning of it?


"Are you on the menu?" Has been something that has been used between us for years but now that I stop and think about it, even though it's been used in a joking matter we're not cannibals and my man (who has questioned me this more often) has recently started seeing my point.


The second one is "I love you more than I love myself." We've both used this phrase MANY times but what does it even mean? Do I even love him more than I love myself because if I did I don't think that I would be speaking up every time I feel like he's done something to upset me and just treat me however he wants to as I've put my happiness first in this relationship although his happiness means the world to me too.

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An important aspect of self-preservation is understanding the importance of putting self in primary position.

Like when you're on a plane that's about to take off and the flight crew are explaining the importance of putting on your oxygen mask BEFORE putting your child's mask on him/her. If you put the mask on the child first and then you pass out and die of oxygen deprivation, what good is that to your child? You can't help others when you deprive yourself to the point of uselessness to them.


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[rightwinger]

I love you more today than yesterday
But not as much as tomorrow

Spiral Staircase

 

[dblack]

Loving yourself too much can be a problem. Especially for younger people. Save it for marriage.

 

[Road Runner]

If you love yourself, you'll have love to give to others. If not, you won't. You can't give something that you don't have.

My thoughts exactly. I'll just stick with how the Bible preaches it. Loving others as yourself.

 

[Woodznutz]

I love you more today than yesterday
But not as much as tomorrow

The Zombies

"Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday."

Woodznutz

 

[Seymour Flops]

I was just thinking about some of the things that my man and I say to one another all the time and think should we really be saying it as do we even know the full meaning of it?


"Are you on the menu?" Has been something that has been used between us for years but now that I stop and think about it, even though it's been used in a joking matter we're not cannibals and my man (who has questioned me this more often) has recently started seeing my point.


The second one is "I love you more than I love myself." We've both used this phrase MANY times but what does it even mean? Do I even love him more than I love myself because if I did I don't think that I would be speaking up every time I feel like he's done something to upset me and just treat me however he wants to as I've put my happiness first in this relationship although his happiness means the world to me too.

I don't think that it is a moral imperitive to love others more than yourself.

But I know for a fact, that since I found a wife to love more than myself, and we had children for me to love more than that even, I have been much happier than when I was single and had no thoughts except 'what's in it for me?'

 

[rightwinger]

Loving yourself too much can be a problem. Especially for younger people. Save it for marriage.

If you don’t stop it, you will go blind!

 

[dblack]

If you don’t stop it, you will go blind!

Two or three times a day is ok, but any more is excessive.

 

[Road Runner]

I don't think that it is a moral imperitive to love others more than yourself.

But I know for a fact, that since I found a wife to love more than myself, and we had children for me to love more than that even, I have been much happier than when I was single and had no thoughts except 'what's in it for me?'

I guess it just depends on how you look at it as my man used to be sex crazy and that's ALL he used to be interested in our relationship. If I hadn't loved myself enough to care about my happiness I would still be his sex toy.

 

[Woodznutz]

90 percent of love is repentance and forgiveness.

(I made up that 90 percent.)

 

[luiza]

Should You Love Others Before Yourself?​

Usual crap given out by every Cultist Elite Group .

Benefits them and keeps the Cult Members quiet and guilty.

Hasn't ever worked for the Sheeple but they are so stupid they never notice .

 

[Calypso Jones]

What did Jesus say? Love your neighbor as you love yourself? Let me make sure i have every word right. IF that is the case, then loving yourself is human or 'your default position'. But it still takes you to the same place. right?

 

[Calypso Jones]

God's love for us if paramount. That's first. wouldn't you say.

 

[Woodznutz]

Loving yourself too much can be a problem. Especially for younger people. Save it for marriage.

Abusing yourself isn't love.

 

[Calypso Jones]

matt 22: jesus said.

Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38 This is the first and great commandment.

second great commandment Matt 22
Love your neighbor as yourself.

 

[Woodznutz]

matt 22: jesus said.

Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38 This is the first and great commandment.

In the absence of God, love your neighbor. God will credit it as love for him.

 

[Calypso Jones]

In the absence of God, love your neighbor. God will credit it as love for him.

is that right? Do you have a verse?

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

I don't think that it is a moral imperitive to love others more than yourself.

But I know for a fact, that since I found a wife to love more than myself, and we had children for me to love more than that even, I have been much happier than when I was single and had no thoughts except 'what's in it for me?'

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I think maybe it's possible and even positive to love one's child more than oneself.

St. Gianna Molla sacrificed her life for the life of her unborn child. She is the patron Saint of the Pro-life movement.

St. Gianna Beretta Molla - Saints & Angels - Catholic Online

I so admire St. Gianna for this, and it was a tough choice when I was deciding what Confirmation name to take when I became a Catholic. I ended up taking the other name.


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