When someone does something to you and you are offended it is not always because that person did anything wrong but it may be that your reaction was wrong and what offended you would not have offended anyone else having the same thing done to them. I have been touched from behind. hugged, kissed on the head and on my cheeks by someone in the public that I know and never have It made me feel uncomfortable because it was a friend or just someone I knew. Because I am not that sensitive and responsive to what other people do. Some people don't like to be touched and others do not mind and it does not mean the toucher is doing anything wrong. There is a mental condition that explains this better then I can. I have MS and my CNS is very sensitive and at times anything touching my skin is uncomfortable. I also sometimes have what is called an "MS Hug" where the muscles between my rid go into spasms and what relieves it is a very tight hug and sometimes I even asked for it and that makes some uncomfortable be they usually do it. Feels like being wrapped very tightly in a warm blanket. I am also sensitive to noise and it is not that it is loud but it appears to be loud to me. The point I am trying to make is that being touched and touching someone is not always wrong because it makes one feel uncomfortable. When someone touches you do not try to get into their heads it may just be in your head. The point that Lucy did not feel it was sexual is really saying it was not wrong what he did but how she reacted. Oversensitive.
Haphephobia (also known as aphephobia, haphophobia, hapnophobia, haptephobia, haptophobia, thixophobia) is a rare specific phobia that involves the fear of touching or of being touched. This is often associated with a fear of sexual assault. Another question. Has Lucy been sexually assaulted? It is not norman for Lucy to react the way she did with someone she knew and probably was in his presence often.
A very good book....."Too Loud, Too Bright, Too Fast, Too Tight" What to do if you are sensory defensive in an overstimulating world...Sheron Heller, Ph.D.
“Toughen up!” “Don’t be so sensitive.” “I can’t believe that bothers you!” If you have a high level of sensitivity to physical and/or emotional stimuli, you may have hypersensitivity along with attention deficit disorder.