How ya doin?

[dmp]

"How ya doin'?"

Don't ask me how I'm doing unless you care what the answer is. Don't ask me how I'm doing unless you know me or have the intention of getting to know me. Don't ask me how I'm doing if all you want is to hear me recite "fine" or "good. Don't ask me how I'm doing as a substitute for "hello" and then go on talking, not even pausing to let me respond to your pretense at showing some interest in me.

If you really are interested in me-that is, my values, my interests, and my ideas-then please differentiate yourself from the others who aren't. With thousands of pointless "how ya doin'?" utterances bombarding my consciousness, yours, no matter how sincere, wouldn't carry the meaning that it should.

So don't ask me how I'm doing. Ask me something that expresses unmistakably that you care what the answer is. Ask me something that no one else would bother asking. Ask me simply what I'm thinking.

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[Johnney]

so how ya doin?