Ever had a friend who turned reclusive?

[1srelluc]

I had a friend who was always up to go fishing and such but lost his child (his wife let the kid scald to death in the bathtub while he was at work) and he divorced her and turned reclusive.

He would call me maybe once a year and talk about our times on the river but always turned down my offers to get together and go fishing or bowfishing.

His sister who lived out of state found him dead in his home a couple of months back, he had been dead for better than a month.

 

[mudwhistle]

I had a friend who was always up to go fishing and such but lost his child (his wife let the kid scald to death in the bathtub while he was at work) and he divorced her and turned reclusive.

He would call me maybe once a year and talk about our times on the river but always turned down my offers to get together and go fishing or bowfishing.

His sister who lived out of state found him dead in his home a couple of months back, he had been dead for better than a month.

When I was still in the Navy in the 70s I had a friend jump off the ship at sea after he got a Dear John letter from his gf.

I watched him drown.

 

[Hafar1014]

I had a friend who was always up to go fishing and such but lost his child (his wife let the kid scald to death in the bathtub while he was at work) and he divorced her and turned reclusive.

He would call me maybe once a year and talk about our times on the river but always turned down my offers to get together and go fishing or bowfishing.

His sister who lived out of state found him dead in his home a couple of months back, he had been dead for better than a month.

Depression and the sad thing is medication and therapy can help

 

[1srelluc]

Depression and the sad thing is medication and therapy can help

I don't know, he was always the quiet type and worked by himself in his brother's custom upholstery shop till his brother passed, then he just sorta went silent altogether.

 

[Chuz Life]

It's not voluntary.

Many days, MOST days, my brain injured wife and some posts here or on X are the only contact we have with anyone else at all.

I:m good with it but it's even worse, for her.

 

[Winston]

This nation is suffering from an epidemic of loneliness. All this Social Media shit made things worse, not better.

My middle son is extremely agoraphobic. He was just awarded his four year pen at work. Four years that he has worked for his company. Four years that he has never left his apartment. And when you combine it all, it has been five years since he went anywhere other than a dinner out the day we moved him to his apartment, drugged up out of his mind.

He is not reclusive. Actually, quite gregarious, big old teddy bear. It is a large apartment complex, he is kind of the mayor. He walks half a dozen dogs for play money, is always there to take a delivery, look after a pet. He might even walk beside the place and go to Bojangles or Walgreens. What he won't do, cross the damn road.

He orders his groceries online. Sees a teledoc. And all our family get-togethers are held in the apartment clubhouse. He makes it work. Hard to condemn him.

 

[Lockback]

I had a friend who was always up to go fishing and such but lost his child (his wife let the kid scald to death in the bathtub while he was at work) and he divorced her and turned reclusive.

He would call me maybe once a year and talk about our times on the river but always turned down my offers to get together and go fishing or bowfishing.

His sister who lived out of state found him dead in his home a couple of months back, he had been dead for better than a month.

That is such a tragedy on so many levels.

 

[martybegan]

I had a friend who was always up to go fishing and such but lost his child (his wife let the kid scald to death in the bathtub while he was at work) and he divorced her and turned reclusive.

He would call me maybe once a year and talk about our times on the river but always turned down my offers to get together and go fishing or bowfishing.

His sister who lived out of state found him dead in his home a couple of months back, he had been dead for better than a month.

Sounds like clinical depression.

 

[MarathonMike]

I had a cousin who recently died in his home of a heart attack. He lived in a retirement community in his parents' home who died a few years ago. He got to the point where he wouldn't even leave to get his mail, my brother would get it for him and leave it by his door. When the mail piled up, they did a wellness check and found him dead. He was always a shy guy very overweight. When his parents died he became very reclusive.

 

[mudwhistle]

Sounds like clinical depression.

Losing a loved one is a big contributor to depression.

 

[Winston]

I had a cousin who recently died in his home of a heart attack. He lived in a retirement community in his parents' home who died a few years ago. He got to the point where he wouldn't even leave to get his mail, my brother would get it for him and leave it by his door. When the mail piled up, they did a wellness check and found him dead. He was always a shy guy very overweight. When his parents died he became very reclusive.

My Aunt is that way. Her husband passed last year but they were both reclusive for years. For him, weight was a part of it. Not being mean, but he fell down an embankment behind his house, they had to get a crane. Mom visits my uncle, she lives next door. We always deliver a pie, or cookies, have to leave it at the door.

 

[martybegan]

Losing a loved one is a big contributor to depression.

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I don't think I've been the same since my Grandfather died at 102 a few years ago. But I recognized the issue and have been seeking treatment for it. Ironically it's my anxiety that caused my depression.

People need to go see a doctor, and then go see a psychiatrist.

 

[mudwhistle]

I don't think I've been the same since my Grandfather died at 102 a few years ago. But I recognized the issue and have been seeking treatment for it. Ironically it's my anxiety that caused my depression.

People need to go see a doctor, and then go see a psychiatrist.

I never got really upset when someone I loved died till my wife died while I was sleeping next to her.

You could call it a form of PTSD if you like.

Took meeting someone else to shake me out of it.

But even that doesn't remove everything.

My new girl tells me to move on......but I keep thinking....would she want me to do that with her.

I'm just glad I finally have a family at almost 70 years old.

 

[80zephyr]

This nation is suffering from an epidemic of loneliness. All this Social Media shit made things worse, not better.

My middle son is extremely agoraphobic. He was just awarded his four year pen at work. Four years that he has worked for his company. Four years that he has never left his apartment. And when you combine it all, it has been five years since he went anywhere other than a dinner out the day we moved him to his apartment, drugged up out of his mind.

He is not reclusive. Actually, quite gregarious, big old teddy bear. It is a large apartment complex, he is kind of the mayor. He walks half a dozen dogs for play money, is always there to take a delivery, look after a pet. He might even walk beside the place and go to Bojangles or Walgreens. What he won't do, cross the damn road.

He orders his groceries online. Sees a teledoc. And all our family get-togethers are held in the apartment clubhouse. He makes it work. Hard to condemn him.

I am agoraphobic. Tried everything until I heard a doctor on the radio. He said the only cure was drugs. I did the drugs for years. And I am about as cured as I ever will be,

I thank God I heard the broadcast.

Good luck to your son.

 

[Cassandro]

Withdrawal is a normal human function, as long as it does not occur too early in one's life.

 

[1srelluc]

Withdrawal is a normal human function, as long as it does not occur too early in one's life.

I guess he was in his late 20s when he went silent.....The few times I did see him during the silent years he was still as fit as he was as a he was as a young man.

I do remember his brother telling me he was getting some sort of disability but I don't know why. None of my business.

He lived, and died, in his parent's home, they both passed back in the late 70s and his brother and sister just let him rent it.

I guess his sister got the place when Asa died.....I don't think the brother, who had passed prior, had a wife or kids.