Because as a civilized society we take care of our disabled and elderly. If you want to go back to primitive times, we can take him into the woods and leave him to die on his own, but today, we'd end up in jail for that. My husband has parkinson's, I have arthritis and other problems and we can't continue to handle an adult that disabled. He ripped out several walls in our home. Did you expect us to just let him kill us? He still would have ended up being taken care of by the state, at your expense. And of course, if we took him out into the woods, the state would have us institutionalized and you'd be paying for us instead. What exactly was my other choice? I suppose I could have aborted him, if I'd known he was going to have autism, but I didn't. I suppose I could have been a worse mother and let him wander away and drown as a child in a nearby river as happened to another autistic boy near here. I really don't understand what you want me to do here, please explain it.
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I didn't cause his autism. I'm not the fault of his condition. Why do you think it is my responsibility to provide for him?
Saying things like "I could have aborted him", and "let him wander away and drown as a child in a nearby river", is taking things to an extreme. I've never advocated any such action on your part.
There used to be a time when people that were disabled were taken care of
voluntarily by their community. Somehow, that has turned into forcing the taxpayer (community) to take care of them. Forcing me to give part of my earnings to support another is at best involuntary servitude (which is illegal for me to do) and at worst slavery (also illegal for me to do). Surely you agree that it is both legally and morally wrong for me to force you to financially support my children. The governments taxation actions may have made those acts legal (for the government to do), but it doesn't make them morally right.