thanks for the rep Harry and the observation! I used to take all this so seriously, took myself seriously too and then I realised I was getting even more bitter and twisted than I usually am

so now I - without trivialising people's arguments I hope. don't take it so seriously and try and keep a light air about me (except when I regress). I find it better to smile and laugh here than snarl and grimace. Bloody hell, now I'm taking myself seriously!
