What Would You Do?

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    Your spouse gets a call at 2:00 a.m. calling them to the deathbed of one of their parents. You ask them if they want you to go. Your spouse, knowing how uncomfortable such situations make you and knowing that you would not want to stay until the end, says no, I'll be o.k. Do you stay home or go anyway?
     
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    If you think he needs you go
     
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    In my opinion, you should go, pay your last respects to your in-law, then leave the room and go to a waiting area. Your spouse will need you after his/her parent passes.
     
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    Thanks for the responses. I would never let my spouse go through that on his own. I do really want to hear how others would handle the situation tho.
     
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    There'd be no question- I'd go.
    I might wait in the lobby, but I'd go.
     
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    you go, becasue if you don't you'll regret it for the rest of your life. you need to be there for your spouse. they are going to have a hard enough time as it is and they are going to need you.
     
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    I wouldn't have asked to begin with.
     
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    Nor would I. I'd have asked if he wanted me to drive. And I would not be anywhere other than right at his side. No waiting room for me.... when your spouse needs you, you do what needs to be done - no matter how 'hard'.
     
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    I think you should go.
    I think it is ok if you stay outside the room or something like that too.
     
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    Would all 4 of you go or just one?
     

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