JenT
God lead our troops
People are incredibly ill-mannered and self-absorbed these days. Haven't you noticed?
If I was the BRIDE I'd have a fit. This is supposed to be a celebration about commitment, and he wants to bring his tramp that can't wait for the divorce? Or did I miss the part where they got divorced?
The injured wife can't react, she needs to hold her head high and be above all this, but the next town Quilting B should sound more like strategic warfare, who's taking the sharpest knitting needles and who's going to clean up the evidence.
This is why I said the friend needs to give up trying to figure it out herself with issuing invitations, and go straight to the potential source of trouble. Anyone who doesn't understand that the primary concern in all this is and should be that the wedding go smoothly isn't a good friend and doesn't deserve to be invited. Good friends will tell her honestly whether or not they can handle the situation.
And yes, it's completely appropriate to tell the husband that under the circumstances, it is preferred that he not bring his chippie.
Well if I was the chippie, I wouldn't be within a thousand miles of that place during a wedding. Grandmas know by instinct. That woman is dead meat.