I have a friend (no really, a real person) - a very dear friend I've been in close contact with for almost 30 years. Due to a chronic illness that carries no hope of recovery she's been dealing with for the last dozen years, the endless stream of drugs she needs to get through day to day, the limitations of the medical system to get any kind of financial help for her, and being cleaned out of everything she received from the class action suit against the drug company that created this condition, she's in the process of giving up and making plans to "check out". She's told me in matter-of-fact terms what possessions she'd like me to pick up after she goes, and is in the process of getting such affairs in order so that she can proceed. We've established that it would be asking too much of her to at some point tell me goodbye, so as we talk by phone I never know if this is my last conversation with her. This is a heavy thing. Has anyone been in a similar position?