Dr. Phil had this chick on today who has an adopted seven year old son from a Russian orphanage. It sounded as if they boy was about three when she adopted him, and Dr. Phil was merrily discussing all the chick's failures as a parent because her discipline, though extreme, has not produced any positive results. You may recall this story, from earlier this year.... Incident with Russia opens window on issue: Overseas adoptions not always a blessing | cleveland.com Why are we so fearful of speaking the truth about damaged kids? I dun know if these children have "oppositional personality disorder" or are a "bad seed"....some kids do not develop the emotional equipment necessary to function in a private home. Once they get to be school age and are too big to physically control, they very often require institutionalization for their safety and the safety of their families and neighborhoods. There were some telling facts about today's guest on Dr. Phil that I see over and over.... * Although the chick is married, her husband refused to attend and spoke, in his statement, only about how disappointed he is that his wife has failed to socialize the child. As if he has no part to play. * She has five other children at home, all of whom are afraid of this boy. * She's taken the child to every doctor and therapist she could find. All promised to help and none did. * The school and the neighbors are leaning on this chick to "control the child", the one thing she very clearly cannot do. No one in her shoes could. * Even her own mother blamed the child's misconduct -- which is extreme -- on this chick. Apparently, blaming women is easier than facing facts: some kids are FUBAR, it is not always the chick's fault and there needs to be safe institutional care for these little people for all our sakes. Your thoughts?