I think we are going to end up not agreeing on this...for all we know the father wanted custody of the children and didn't get it...I can't see any real reason that his educational wishes for the kids don't have the same merit as the mother's wishes. I suppose he could go over and teach them evolution...if she lets him.It sounds as if they are in divorce proceeding currently, so it isn't the judge overriding the mother's opinion, it is the judge settling a dispute between the parents.
Wake judge orders home schoolers into public classrooms :: WRAL.com
I agree with your overall point that the custodial parent has to deal with the day to day decisions for the children. But I don't agree that the non-custodial parent has no say in what goes on.
The thread I mentioned was a discussion of a gay advocacy group handing out materials in schools to teach children that gay relationships were normal. So my question was, what if this woman was sending her children to one of those schools and had no problem with the literature being handed out, but the father objected to the literature...why would she have the final say, simply because she was the custodial parent? Where does the non-custodial parent lose his or her rights to what he or she considers the best interests of the child?
let me answer you before looking for Jillians other posts on this...
i don't think the non custodial parent has no say..... usually the parents work out what is best for the kids.
If the non custodial parent has concerns for their children because of harm, or something illegal then by all means, see a judge to put some sort of stop order on the mother, or take the kids away....
But, when you have these kids, who have always been home schooled and they are testing at 2 years above norm and they were taken out of public school in the first place because they were doing poorly in public school, and they also participate in extra curricular activies and sports with kids of their own age, WHAT reason would there be for the judge to do this against the mother's will, who has temporary custody of the kids....if the divorce is not final yet, and the kids are with her, she has the custody of them...
If they were testing below their grade level, confined to never going out of the house and seeing sunshine, and 20lbs under weight, I'd say...Houston, we have a problem! And most certainly the non custodial parent should have a means to object.
On the passing out gay pamphlet thing by some activist group, at a school...i don't think they should be allowed to do it in the first place, nor should Christians be allowed to pass on pamphlets at a school.
(i still haven't read the thread, so i am not certain i am dipicting what happened)
but presuming i have the gist of it, if the mother wanted the child to continue to go to this school, where these pamphlets were distributed and the non custodial father objected to his child continuing to go to this public school, i would say the father would not have good reason to insist such....unless there was some proof that this harmed his child in some way.
There is no reason why the father could not take this booklet and go over it with his children and teach them why he disagrees with the booklet's view on this...if his children happened to even get a copy of it handed to them...
so, if i got the gist of the story right, this is how i think on it...
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I don't see this as a slippery slope kind of thing, either, because I think this disagreement between the parents has merit and the judge was within his rights to mediate...as lame as his reasoning sounded. I'd like to know more about the case than was given in the WorldNutDaily link.
Did it say in this article that she would not or has not taught the kids on Evolution or are you speculating on this....? And wouldn't these children have been taught this already if this is what the father wanted when he was there and his wife home schooled?
Why was this schooling A-OK when this father was living with his wife and kids and not OK now?
His only answer is he doesn't want to pay MORE in alimony to keep his kids in the same environment they were in before he committed adultery. this case is SCREAMING him not wanting to pay alimony to keep his wife home, schooling the kids as he did BEFORE he committed ADULTERY....and was caught.
I always thought, when the woman goes after the rich man in a divorce, she shoots for getting the SAME standard of living that she had, when married, and the same quality care for her children when married, especially if the hubby committed adultery...?
Ravi, if there were any real valid reasons at all to show these kids needed for their own well being, to be taken out of their private schooling and be put in to public schooling, then i would agree with it.... (there isn't though, the father even said through his lawyer she was a wonderful mother....)
but since THERE IS NO EVIDENCE of such, or at least no evidence at all mentioned in the article, and only evidence showing how well these kids have done when pulled out of the public system, the decision of this judge's is activism on his part and based on his own personal opinion, not evidence presented in the case...again, at least how it appears fron the information given on the case in the article...imo.
This guy wants the wifey to go back to work, stop living the life she and her children were accustomed to living when married to him. He committed adultery, and he should have thought about that before he chose to do such....
I rule in FAVOR of the wifey and kids!!!! CASE ADJOURNED
And yes, we will have to respectfully disagree!
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