Ok, I've been doing a lot of thinking about the constant sexuality debates in this country and I've noticed one thing particularly odd. Both liberals and conservatives, in general, have a double standard concerning the nature of sexuality, thought their double standards are polar opposites. To a conservative, who holds zero tolerance for sexual deviance, homosexuality is a choice. You aren't born homosexual, and if you really do choose to, you can become straight with therapy and insight into whatever caused you to be gay. This leaves no excuse for homosexuals, meaning no gay rights, because it's voluntary deviance, which should be discouraged. On the other side of the standard lie the illegal deviants. Namely, pedophiles. Conservatives contend that a pedophile has this type of behavior ingrained within their heads and cannot possibly be cured. Once they become pedophiles, you might as well write them off as society's waste, to be discarded without remorse. This, of course, leads to the conservative viewpoints of no mercy towards pedophiles. Longer prison sentences, no sentence-shortening therapy, and neutering are the order of the day for the conservative's pedophile stance. Since pedophiles cannot be cured, this is the best way to keep them from acting again. Liberals, on the other hand, argue that homosexuality is involuntary and is something ingrained in the person's head from birth, or at least from the time they become sexually aware. They can't help that they're gay, so they should be allowed to live out their lives as gay people and be able to have special conveniences that allow them to gain all the benefits of a normal, heterosexual relationship without actually being heterosexual. The flip-side of this one with pedophiles is that most liberals, always on the side of compassion over all else, believe that pedophiles have some sort of fixable problem, something wrong with them that can be treated with therapy, allowing the redeemed pedophile to go back into the world without those desires. With enough therapy, any pedophile can work at any child-oriented business without ever repeating his past crime. They're perfectly reformable and should be given this rehabilitation in order to allow them to live normal, happy lives. Now, while I have seen some who do not subscribe to either double standard, they are rare, and though I disagree with some (Nuc comes to mind), I must admire their consistency. So, once and for all, I'd like to ask the many of you I have seen subscribe to mainly the former double standard the ultimate question: Which is it? Is sexual preference something you are born and stuck with or is it something that develops and can be changed? It's either one or the other, pick one.