Quantum Windbag
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I think this is one of the most interesting things I have ever read. It actually raises some questions I hadn't considered, and is one of the best arguments I have ever heard against men marrying men.
http://www.gaypatriot.net/2013/05/01/guest-post-my-ever-devolving-stance-on-gay-marriage/
What Donovan, and I to an extent, are asking is why arent we creating and appropriating some sort of bond or union that reflects our unique relationship to one another, as two men? With of course, legal hospital visitation rights, property taxes, joint income tax relief etc etc that is undertaken by anyone who chooses to commit their life to one another.
Why do we have to take a tradition thats not ours and try to appropriate it? Why not make our own? Something inspired and honored by the unique Mars/Mars combination that make up an intimate same-sex relationship. There is no woman in my relationship yes opposites always attract but that doesnt make one of us the girl. I am a man. We are men there is no bride. There is no wedding dress. My dad sure as hell isnt giving me away to anyone. I choose to give my life for someone else.
Why not create something honorable, unique to our relationships with each other, that are separate from marriages but equal in the legal context. The problem with this whole equality argument is that it essentially gay sounds like spoiled brats who want something just because they cant have it. I am gay, it is a behavioral trait I do not choose to feel desire for men but I do choose to act on it. And Im good with that. I take responsibility for it. No one owes me anything. Im not a victim. Im not oppressed. Im not embarrassed. Im not proud because I didnt pass any test to be into dudes. I just am.
Im a man who loves other men.
http://www.gaypatriot.net/2013/05/01/guest-post-my-ever-devolving-stance-on-gay-marriage/