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Today is Valentine's Day, when even the most exhausted and battle-worn couples find a flicker of passion.
The guys will buy something nice and soap up twice in the shower before dinner. The ladies might slip into something a little more comfortable.
But then tomorrow will come, and -- just as on the other 364 days of the year -- husband and wife will climb back on the treadmill of marriage. There they will continue with the predictable ins and outs of many marriages, the routine, the predictability, the sameness.
Compare that with those first fiery days after you met, when you focused your attention on nothing but each other -- and back seats, sleeping bags and futons.
Thinking about all that might make a husband or wife look over during a commercial break and ask: "Honey, what did we do wrong?"
What you did wrong -- among other things -- was call each other "honey" in the first place.
Pet names -- "honey," "darling," "super-snuggly-puggly," whatever -- need to be expunged from a couple's vocabulary, say Julienne Davis and Maggie Arana, authors of "Stop Calling Him Honey . . . And Start Having Sex!"
Calling your spouse your "pookie" or "huggums" flips a switch in the subconscious, and suddenly your husband or wife is no longer that hot, sensual creature you once lusted after.
"It turns people into an asexual, cuddly teddy-bear toy that you want to spoon with and watch funny movies with and drink hot chocolate with," says Davis, "but it doesn't make you want to shag them!
Want a happy sex life? Don't use pet names | cleveland.com
What say you? Agree?