CDZ Microcheating

[Tommy Tainant]

Are you guilty of 'micro-cheating'?

Have you ever private-messaged someone online and kept it from your partner?

According to an Australian psychologist, a range of actions, including having a secret online conversation and leaving heart emojis on a friend's Facebook post, might be seen as micro-cheating.

Melanie Schilling told Huffington Post Australia that it comes down to "seemingly small actions that indicate a person is emotionally or physically focused on someone outside their relationship"

I had to think about this.

Bumped into an old flame a little while back. Said something that made her laugh and we chatted and showed each other pix of our kids.

Now I dont know if I was micro cheating.

Where do you draw the line ?

 

[usmbguest5318]

Have you ever private-messaged someone online and kept it from your partner?

No. If I message someone with anything resembling the intent described in the linked article, it's because my partner and I seek a threeway.

Where do you draw the line ?

One draws the line at whatever be the boundaries agreed upon by one and one's partner. Cheating, be it micro or otherwise, has whatever definitions it has; however, those definitions have may or may not have value in one's own relationships. Such definitions/descriptions have two uses:

• To provide a framework by which others can judge one and one's behavior by an abstract standard.
• To provide a framework that one may use as a starting point for establishing the nature of one's own relationships.

As go one's relationships, what is and isn't cheating of any sort is defined/definable ultimately and only by oneself and the other party(s) to the relationship. Everyone else can screw themselves into the next century trying to force one's relationship fit into their norms and expectations.

In my relationship with my lady, there are only two people who who get to opine upon and/or decide what be and be not cheating. I think were I to have concerned myself with what "the rest of the world" thinks should be the nature of my relationships, I'd probably have long ago committed hara-kiri. Life's too short to bother with what others think about how one conducts one's intimate affairs with other adults.

 

[Leo123]

Is participating in this Forum microcheating?

 

[usmbguest5318]

Is participating in this Forum microcheating?

That would depend on what you and your partner consider cheating/microcheating.

 

[Leo123]

Is participating in this Forum microcheating?

That would depend on what you and your partner consider cheating/microcheating.

My remark was kind of tongue-in-cheek. I dislike made up words like microcheating or microagression because they are made up to describe made-up problems.

 

[usmbguest5318]

Is participating in this Forum microcheating?

That would depend on what you and your partner consider cheating/microcheating.

My remark was kind of tongue-in-cheek. I dislike made up words like microcheating or microagression.

Okay. I understand what you were getting at, then. TY for the clarification.

 

[Tommy Tainant]

Is participating in this Forum microcheating?

That would depend on what you and your partner consider cheating/microcheating.

My remark was kind of tongue-in-cheek. I dislike made up words like microcheating or microagression because they are made up to describe made-up problems.

Its a real thing though.
Its not at the level of having your lawyer pay off a porn star. Its more at the Jimmy Carter impure thoughts ball park.

 

[baileyn45]

Are you guilty of 'micro-cheating'?

Have you ever private-messaged someone online and kept it from your partner?

According to an Australian psychologist, a range of actions, including having a secret online conversation and leaving heart emojis on a friend's Facebook post, might be seen as micro-cheating.

Melanie Schilling told Huffington Post Australia that it comes down to "seemingly small actions that indicate a person is emotionally or physically focused on someone outside their relationship"

I had to think about this.

Bumped into an old flame a little while back. Said something that made her laugh and we chatted and showed each other pix of our kids.

Now I dont know if I was micro cheating.

Where do you draw the line ?

Stop listening to idiots trying to make up new ways for you to feel guilty about childish nonsense would be a start. How old are you 9?

 

[Tommy Tainant]

Are you guilty of 'micro-cheating'?

Have you ever private-messaged someone online and kept it from your partner?

According to an Australian psychologist, a range of actions, including having a secret online conversation and leaving heart emojis on a friend's Facebook post, might be seen as micro-cheating.

Melanie Schilling told Huffington Post Australia that it comes down to "seemingly small actions that indicate a person is emotionally or physically focused on someone outside their relationship"

I had to think about this.

Bumped into an old flame a little while back. Said something that made her laugh and we chatted and showed each other pix of our kids.

Now I dont know if I was micro cheating.

Where do you draw the line ?

Stop listening to idiots trying to make up new ways for you to feel guilty about childish nonsense would be a start. How old are you 9?

Its not nonsense. Spiritual men like myself do ponder on these issues.

 

[baileyn45]

Melanie Schilling told Huffington Post Australia

Huffington Post, go figure. Melanie needs to find a job.