I can applaud this man

[tycho1572]

The father said he had stopped by his ex-girlfriend's house earlier in the week after he was told his daughter was ill and was shocked to see the refrigerator was completely empty.

She works a full time job and then has my daughter..she pays rent and all her bills plus she is paying off a car..so today I went shopping to make sure she had food for the next few weeks..just because we aren't together doesn't mean I can't provide for her if she needs it,' he said.

'If my child's mother is good then I know she is taking care of our daughter the best she can and that [makes] me happy.

'Some of y'all think I'm only going to provide for my child f*** the mother but that's thinking like a child..it's time to grow up and take responsibility in all aspects of life.
Florida father buys his ex-girlfriend groceries | Daily Mail Online


Thoughts?

 

[The Great Goose]

Well they are friends so why wouldn't he help? She looks after his child.

 

[tycho1572]

Well they are friends so why wouldn't he help? She looks after his child.

Friends?

 

[tycho1572]

I once went through a similar situation with an ex GF shortly after a snow storm.
She called when the oil truck couldn't make it up a hill to deliver fuel. When she called me for help, I knew she was desperate. lol
After helping her find a place, and then helping her move, I knew it wasn't an easy call for her to make.

 

[Book of Jeremiah]

He did the right thing. So did you. If everyone did what you two did the world would be a far better place.

 

[tycho1572]

He did the right thing. So did you. If everyone did what you two did the world would be a far better place.

It's all about setting hard feelings aside and doing what's right.

 

[The Great Goose]

Well they are friends so why wouldn't he help? She looks after his child.

Friends?

Well why is it mandatory to be enemies with a person you had a child with and made love to?

 

[tycho1572]

Well they are friends so why wouldn't he help? She looks after his child.

Friends?

Well why is it mandatory to be enemies with a person you had a child with and made love to?

Who said it was?

 

[Book of Jeremiah]

Well they are friends so why wouldn't he help? She looks after his child.

Friends?

Well why is it mandatory to be enemies with a person you had a child with and made love to?

You'd be amazed at how people who were once married / had a child can treat each other in a divorce. The stories are plentiful and they are harrowing. Ever seen War of the Roses with Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner? That happens in real life. Neither side wants to give in and the end result is war. It is commendable that neither Tycho nor the man in the OP story chose to take that road. They rose above it and did the right thing.

 

[The Great Goose]

Well they are friends so why wouldn't he help? She looks after his child.

Friends?

Well why is it mandatory to be enemies with a person you had a child with and made love to?

Who said it was?

I thought it might have been.

 

[tycho1572]

Well they are friends so why wouldn't he help? She looks after his child.

Friends?

Well why is it mandatory to be enemies with a person you had a child with and made love to?

Who said it was?

I thought it might have been.

People often forget why they loved someone when things don't work out.
Some remember and do the right thing.

 

[usmbguest5318]

So you know I clicked on the source link in the OP. The first thing I see is the article's headline: "Kindhearted dad becomes online sensation after he buys groceries for his ex when he realized she was too busy caring for their sick baby daughter to get to the store."

My thoughts: Oookaaay....Why the hell is his doing what he should be doing resulting in his becoming an "online sensation?" What am I missing here? A man buying groceries for his "baby mama" is enough to cause a "sensation?" Really?

Whatever...I kept reading, thinking maybe there's more to this story, such as his buying them groceries for a whole year and arranging to have them delivered on a semi-weekly schedule or something....Or his doing so had some sort of great stroke of luck associated with it...just something that transcends "doing the right thing" because it's the right thing to do.

Then I read that he bought a few weeks worth of groceries for his ex and child. Okay, but isn't grocery shopping for most Americans a "shopping for a few weeks" sort of thing? I know when I grocery shop, it's a matter of stopping at the store on the way home and buying whatever looks good and that I feel like I want to cook that evening. For that reason, there're almost never much in the way of groceries in my house. I have lots of condiments, seasoning and spices, and just about anything one might want to slake a thirst. Maybe these people live in a city, and that style of grocery shopping in the norm. Well, he lives in Florida, but we aren't told where.

Reading on, I find out the man visited his daughter because he learned she was ill, and upon doing so, he observed what he deemed a dearth of groceries in the house. That's why he bought the groceries. Great. He saw a problem that needed fixing and he fixed it.

Fine, but I'm still just seeing a dude who's doing what he's supposed to be doing. I'm still looking for what's sensational about the man. I read that he posted a photo of the grocery bill, which seems really bizarre to me, but whatever....people gratuitously post on social media all sorts of "look at what I did" stuff I wouldn't think worth mentioning were I to have done it, so I guess that is what it is. I finished reading the article and, frankly, I didn't find anything that struck me as the man having done anything other than his duty as a co-parent and father.

Say what you want of my thinking that, but I wasn't raised to think that one deserves praise, notoriety, etc. for doing what one is supposed to do.

• I didn't get praised for earning straight As in school because doing that is what I was sent there to do. I wouldn't have been sent to the schools I was were it not apparent to my parents that I was capable of doing so.
• There were no unusual accolades for behaving well, because I was supposed to be well behaved.
• Throughout my career, there has never been any "bonus" for me or anyone else who merely meets expectations. There's no downside for that; it's just that one isn't going to get any notice or "special reward" for doing so. I/we pay people to, at the very least, meet expectations, and meeting them is sufficient, but that's all it is.

The "baby mama" is a woman he cared enough about to "bang" and have a child with. She and he have jobs and homes and a kid they both must care for. If the mother has primary custody of the child, it stands to reason that her wellbeing is crucial to their daughter's sufficiency. So, if Mama is overloaded at the time, yes, it's his responsibility to step-up and take care of things that normally she might handle on her own. Their family circumstances may be non-traditional, so to speak, but a family they are nonetheless. That's that. And that's the source of my wonderment about Mr. Carpenter's receiving acclaim for meeting what unquestionably is the bar for being a typically good co-parent, father and human being.

 

[tycho1572]

Being kind to an ex can also have some unexpected benefits when meeting a new girl.
I once had a girl call an ex of mine before she'd go out with me. lol

 

[tycho1572]

So you know I clicked on the source link in the OP. The first thing I see is the article's headline: "Kindhearted dad becomes online sensation after he buys groceries for his ex when he realized she was too busy caring for their sick baby daughter to get to the store."

My thoughts: Oookaaay....Why the hell is his doing what he should be doing resulting in his becoming an "online sensation?" What am I missing here? A man buying groceries for his "baby mama" is enough to cause a "sensation?" Really?

Whatever...I kept reading, thinking maybe there's more to this story, such as his buying them groceries for a whole year and arranging to have them delivered on a semi-weekly schedule or something....Or his doing so had some sort of great stroke of luck associated with it...just something that transcends "doing the right thing" because it's the right thing to do.

Then I read that he bought a few weeks worth of groceries for his ex and child. Okay, but isn't grocery shopping for most Americans a "shopping for a few weeks" sort of thing? I know when I grocery shop, it's a matter of stopping at the store on the way home and buying whatever looks good and that I feel like I want to cook that evening. For that reason, there're almost never much in the way of groceries in my house. I have lots of condiments, seasoning and spices, and just about anything one might want to slake a thirst. Maybe these people live in a city, and that style of grocery shopping in the norm. Well, he lives in Florida, but we aren't told where.

Reading on, I find out the man visited his daughter because he learned she was ill, and upon doing so, he observed what he deemed a dearth of groceries in the house. That's why he bought the groceries. Great. He saw a problem that needed fixing and he fixed it.

Fine, but I'm still just seeing a dude who's doing what he's supposed to be doing. I'm still looking for what's sensational about the man. I read that he posted a photo of the grocery bill, which seems really bizarre to me, but whatever....people gratuitously post on social media all sorts of "look at what I did" stuff I wouldn't think worth mentioning were I to have done it, so I guess that is what it is. I finished reading the article and, frankly, I didn't find anything that struck me as the man having done anything other than his duty as a co-parent and father.

Say what you want of my thinking that, but I wasn't raised to think that one deserves praise, notoriety, etc. for doing what one is supposed to do.

• I didn't get praised for earning straight As in school because doing that is what I was sent there to do. I wouldn't have been sent to the schools I was were it not apparent to my parents that I was capable of doing so.
• There were no unusual accolades for behaving well, because I was supposed to be well behaved.
• Throughout my career, there has never been any "bonus" for me or anyone else who merely meets expectations. There's no downside for that; it's just that one isn't going to get any notice or "special reward" for doing so. I/we pay people to, at the very least, meet expectations, and meeting them is sufficient, but that's all it is.

The "baby mama" is a woman he cared enough about to "bang" and have a child with. She and he have jobs and homes and a kid they both must care for. If the mother has primary custody of the child, it stands to reason that her wellbeing is crucial to their daughter's sufficiency. So, if Mama is overloaded at the time, yes, it's his responsibility to step-up and take care of things that normally she might handle on her own. Their family circumstances may be non-traditional, so to speak, but a family they are nonetheless. That's that. And that's the source of my wonderment about Mr. Carpenter's receiving acclaim for meeting what unquestionably is the bar for being a typically good co-parent, father and human being.

Dude... what's with the wall of text?

 

[usmbguest5318]

So you know I clicked on the source link in the OP. The first thing I see is the article's headline: "Kindhearted dad becomes online sensation after he buys groceries for his ex when he realized she was too busy caring for their sick baby daughter to get to the store."

My thoughts: Oookaaay....Why the hell is his doing what he should be doing resulting in his becoming an "online sensation?" What am I missing here? A man buying groceries for his "baby mama" is enough to cause a "sensation?" Really?

Whatever...I kept reading, thinking maybe there's more to this story, such as his buying them groceries for a whole year and arranging to have them delivered on a semi-weekly schedule or something....Or his doing so had some sort of great stroke of luck associated with it...just something that transcends "doing the right thing" because it's the right thing to do.

Then I read that he bought a few weeks worth of groceries for his ex and child. Okay, but isn't grocery shopping for most Americans a "shopping for a few weeks" sort of thing? I know when I grocery shop, it's a matter of stopping at the store on the way home and buying whatever looks good and that I feel like I want to cook that evening. For that reason, there're almost never much in the way of groceries in my house. I have lots of condiments, seasoning and spices, and just about anything one might want to slake a thirst. Maybe these people live in a city, and that style of grocery shopping in the norm. Well, he lives in Florida, but we aren't told where.

Reading on, I find out the man visited his daughter because he learned she was ill, and upon doing so, he observed what he deemed a dearth of groceries in the house. That's why he bought the groceries. Great. He saw a problem that needed fixing and he fixed it.

Fine, but I'm still just seeing a dude who's doing what he's supposed to be doing. I'm still looking for what's sensational about the man. I read that he posted a photo of the grocery bill, which seems really bizarre to me, but whatever....people gratuitously post on social media all sorts of "look at what I did" stuff I wouldn't think worth mentioning were I to have done it, so I guess that is what it is. I finished reading the article and, frankly, I didn't find anything that struck me as the man having done anything other than his duty as a co-parent and father.

Say what you want of my thinking that, but I wasn't raised to think that one deserves praise, notoriety, etc. for doing what one is supposed to do.

• I didn't get praised for earning straight As in school because doing that is what I was sent there to do. I wouldn't have been sent to the schools I was were it not apparent to my parents that I was capable of doing so.
• There were no unusual accolades for behaving well, because I was supposed to be well behaved.
• Throughout my career, there has never been any "bonus" for me or anyone else who merely meets expectations. There's no downside for that; it's just that one isn't going to get any notice or "special reward" for doing so. I/we pay people to, at the very least, meet expectations, and meeting them is sufficient, but that's all it is.

The "baby mama" is a woman he cared enough about to "bang" and have a child with. She and he have jobs and homes and a kid they both must care for. If the mother has primary custody of the child, it stands to reason that her wellbeing is crucial to their daughter's sufficiency. So, if Mama is overloaded at the time, yes, it's his responsibility to step-up and take care of things that normally she might handle on her own. Their family circumstances may be non-traditional, so to speak, but a family they are nonetheless. That's that. And that's the source of my wonderment about Mr. Carpenter's receiving acclaim for meeting what unquestionably is the bar for being a typically good co-parent, father and human being.

Dude... what's with the wall of text?

If you take the time to read the post, you'll know. If you don't, you're life'll surely go on, thought it's hard to imagine exactly how, seeing as you are a soul who felt moved to remark upon the mere quantity of the words in the post.

 

[tycho1572]

So you know I clicked on the source link in the OP. The first thing I see is the article's headline: "Kindhearted dad becomes online sensation after he buys groceries for his ex when he realized she was too busy caring for their sick baby daughter to get to the store."

My thoughts: Oookaaay....Why the hell is his doing what he should be doing resulting in his becoming an "online sensation?" What am I missing here? A man buying groceries for his "baby mama" is enough to cause a "sensation?" Really?

Whatever...I kept reading, thinking maybe there's more to this story, such as his buying them groceries for a whole year and arranging to have them delivered on a semi-weekly schedule or something....Or his doing so had some sort of great stroke of luck associated with it...just something that transcends "doing the right thing" because it's the right thing to do.

Then I read that he bought a few weeks worth of groceries for his ex and child. Okay, but isn't grocery shopping for most Americans a "shopping for a few weeks" sort of thing? I know when I grocery shop, it's a matter of stopping at the store on the way home and buying whatever looks good and that I feel like I want to cook that evening. For that reason, there're almost never much in the way of groceries in my house. I have lots of condiments, seasoning and spices, and just about anything one might want to slake a thirst. Maybe these people live in a city, and that style of grocery shopping in the norm. Well, he lives in Florida, but we aren't told where.

Reading on, I find out the man visited his daughter because he learned she was ill, and upon doing so, he observed what he deemed a dearth of groceries in the house. That's why he bought the groceries. Great. He saw a problem that needed fixing and he fixed it.

Fine, but I'm still just seeing a dude who's doing what he's supposed to be doing. I'm still looking for what's sensational about the man. I read that he posted a photo of the grocery bill, which seems really bizarre to me, but whatever....people gratuitously post on social media all sorts of "look at what I did" stuff I wouldn't think worth mentioning were I to have done it, so I guess that is what it is. I finished reading the article and, frankly, I didn't find anything that struck me as the man having done anything other than his duty as a co-parent and father.

Say what you want of my thinking that, but I wasn't raised to think that one deserves praise, notoriety, etc. for doing what one is supposed to do.

• I didn't get praised for earning straight As in school because doing that is what I was sent there to do. I wouldn't have been sent to the schools I was were it not apparent to my parents that I was capable of doing so.
• There were no unusual accolades for behaving well, because I was supposed to be well behaved.
• Throughout my career, there has never been any "bonus" for me or anyone else who merely meets expectations. There's no downside for that; it's just that one isn't going to get any notice or "special reward" for doing so. I/we pay people to, at the very least, meet expectations, and meeting them is sufficient, but that's all it is.

The "baby mama" is a woman he cared enough about to "bang" and have a child with. She and he have jobs and homes and a kid they both must care for. If the mother has primary custody of the child, it stands to reason that her wellbeing is crucial to their daughter's sufficiency. So, if Mama is overloaded at the time, yes, it's his responsibility to step-up and take care of things that normally she might handle on her own. Their family circumstances may be non-traditional, so to speak, but a family they are nonetheless. That's that. And that's the source of my wonderment about Mr. Carpenter's receiving acclaim for meeting what unquestionably is the bar for being a typically good co-parent, father and human being.

Dude... what's with the wall of text?

If you take the time to read the post, you'll know. If you don't, you're life'll surely go on, thought it's hard to imagine exactly how, seeing as you are a soul who felt moved to remark upon the mere quantity of the words in the post.

Get the fuck outta here with that BS. We're here for casual chat.
What were you thinking when you posted that book?

 

[usmbguest5318]

So you know I clicked on the source link in the OP. The first thing I see is the article's headline: "Kindhearted dad becomes online sensation after he buys groceries for his ex when he realized she was too busy caring for their sick baby daughter to get to the store."

My thoughts: Oookaaay....Why the hell is his doing what he should be doing resulting in his becoming an "online sensation?" What am I missing here? A man buying groceries for his "baby mama" is enough to cause a "sensation?" Really?

Whatever...I kept reading, thinking maybe there's more to this story, such as his buying them groceries for a whole year and arranging to have them delivered on a semi-weekly schedule or something....Or his doing so had some sort of great stroke of luck associated with it...just something that transcends "doing the right thing" because it's the right thing to do.

Then I read that he bought a few weeks worth of groceries for his ex and child. Okay, but isn't grocery shopping for most Americans a "shopping for a few weeks" sort of thing? I know when I grocery shop, it's a matter of stopping at the store on the way home and buying whatever looks good and that I feel like I want to cook that evening. For that reason, there're almost never much in the way of groceries in my house. I have lots of condiments, seasoning and spices, and just about anything one might want to slake a thirst. Maybe these people live in a city, and that style of grocery shopping in the norm. Well, he lives in Florida, but we aren't told where.

Reading on, I find out the man visited his daughter because he learned she was ill, and upon doing so, he observed what he deemed a dearth of groceries in the house. That's why he bought the groceries. Great. He saw a problem that needed fixing and he fixed it.

Fine, but I'm still just seeing a dude who's doing what he's supposed to be doing. I'm still looking for what's sensational about the man. I read that he posted a photo of the grocery bill, which seems really bizarre to me, but whatever....people gratuitously post on social media all sorts of "look at what I did" stuff I wouldn't think worth mentioning were I to have done it, so I guess that is what it is. I finished reading the article and, frankly, I didn't find anything that struck me as the man having done anything other than his duty as a co-parent and father.

Say what you want of my thinking that, but I wasn't raised to think that one deserves praise, notoriety, etc. for doing what one is supposed to do.

• I didn't get praised for earning straight As in school because doing that is what I was sent there to do. I wouldn't have been sent to the schools I was were it not apparent to my parents that I was capable of doing so.
• There were no unusual accolades for behaving well, because I was supposed to be well behaved.
• Throughout my career, there has never been any "bonus" for me or anyone else who merely meets expectations. There's no downside for that; it's just that one isn't going to get any notice or "special reward" for doing so. I/we pay people to, at the very least, meet expectations, and meeting them is sufficient, but that's all it is.

The "baby mama" is a woman he cared enough about to "bang" and have a child with. She and he have jobs and homes and a kid they both must care for. If the mother has primary custody of the child, it stands to reason that her wellbeing is crucial to their daughter's sufficiency. So, if Mama is overloaded at the time, yes, it's his responsibility to step-up and take care of things that normally she might handle on her own. Their family circumstances may be non-traditional, so to speak, but a family they are nonetheless. That's that. And that's the source of my wonderment about Mr. Carpenter's receiving acclaim for meeting what unquestionably is the bar for being a typically good co-parent, father and human being.

Dude... what's with the wall of text?

If you take the time to read the post, you'll know. If you don't, you're life'll surely go on, thought it's hard to imagine exactly how, seeing as you are a soul who felt moved to remark upon the mere quantity of the words in the post.

Get the fuck outta here with that BS. We're here for casual chat.
What were you thinking when you posted that book?

Well, fine. Chat casually with people who want that too. You created the thread, and I responded with what I had to say and what I thought about the content and themes in the OP
and linked story. I didn't directly quote your OP, and I didn't beg and plead with you to respond to my post. you took it upon yourself to do that.

 

[tycho1572]

So you know I clicked on the source link in the OP. The first thing I see is the article's headline: "Kindhearted dad becomes online sensation after he buys groceries for his ex when he realized she was too busy caring for their sick baby daughter to get to the store."

My thoughts: Oookaaay....Why the hell is his doing what he should be doing resulting in his becoming an "online sensation?" What am I missing here? A man buying groceries for his "baby mama" is enough to cause a "sensation?" Really?

Whatever...I kept reading, thinking maybe there's more to this story, such as his buying them groceries for a whole year and arranging to have them delivered on a semi-weekly schedule or something....Or his doing so had some sort of great stroke of luck associated with it...just something that transcends "doing the right thing" because it's the right thing to do.

Then I read that he bought a few weeks worth of groceries for his ex and child. Okay, but isn't grocery shopping for most Americans a "shopping for a few weeks" sort of thing? I know when I grocery shop, it's a matter of stopping at the store on the way home and buying whatever looks good and that I feel like I want to cook that evening. For that reason, there're almost never much in the way of groceries in my house. I have lots of condiments, seasoning and spices, and just about anything one might want to slake a thirst. Maybe these people live in a city, and that style of grocery shopping in the norm. Well, he lives in Florida, but we aren't told where.

Reading on, I find out the man visited his daughter because he learned she was ill, and upon doing so, he observed what he deemed a dearth of groceries in the house. That's why he bought the groceries. Great. He saw a problem that needed fixing and he fixed it.

Fine, but I'm still just seeing a dude who's doing what he's supposed to be doing. I'm still looking for what's sensational about the man. I read that he posted a photo of the grocery bill, which seems really bizarre to me, but whatever....people gratuitously post on social media all sorts of "look at what I did" stuff I wouldn't think worth mentioning were I to have done it, so I guess that is what it is. I finished reading the article and, frankly, I didn't find anything that struck me as the man having done anything other than his duty as a co-parent and father.

Say what you want of my thinking that, but I wasn't raised to think that one deserves praise, notoriety, etc. for doing what one is supposed to do.

• I didn't get praised for earning straight As in school because doing that is what I was sent there to do. I wouldn't have been sent to the schools I was were it not apparent to my parents that I was capable of doing so.
• There were no unusual accolades for behaving well, because I was supposed to be well behaved.
• Throughout my career, there has never been any "bonus" for me or anyone else who merely meets expectations. There's no downside for that; it's just that one isn't going to get any notice or "special reward" for doing so. I/we pay people to, at the very least, meet expectations, and meeting them is sufficient, but that's all it is.

The "baby mama" is a woman he cared enough about to "bang" and have a child with. She and he have jobs and homes and a kid they both must care for. If the mother has primary custody of the child, it stands to reason that her wellbeing is crucial to their daughter's sufficiency. So, if Mama is overloaded at the time, yes, it's his responsibility to step-up and take care of things that normally she might handle on her own. Their family circumstances may be non-traditional, so to speak, but a family they are nonetheless. That's that. And that's the source of my wonderment about Mr. Carpenter's receiving acclaim for meeting what unquestionably is the bar for being a typically good co-parent, father and human being.

Dude... what's with the wall of text?

If you take the time to read the post, you'll know. If you don't, you're life'll surely go on, thought it's hard to imagine exactly how, seeing as you are a soul who felt moved to remark upon the mere quantity of the words in the post.

Get the fuck outta here with that BS. We're here for casual chat.
What were you thinking when you posted that book?

Well, fine. Chat casually with people who want that too. You created the thread, and I responded with what I had to say and what I thought about the content and themes in the OP and linked story. I didn't beg and plead with you to respond to my post; you took it upon yourself to do that.

I apologize if I mistook your post for a cut and paste. I'll read it later when I can.

 

[Book of Jeremiah]

So you know I clicked on the source link in the OP. The first thing I see is the article's headline: "Kindhearted dad becomes online sensation after he buys groceries for his ex when he realized she was too busy caring for their sick baby daughter to get to the store."

My thoughts: Oookaaay....Why the hell is his doing what he should be doing resulting in his becoming an "online sensation?" What am I missing here? A man buying groceries for his "baby mama" is enough to cause a "sensation?" Really?

Whatever...I kept reading, thinking maybe there's more to this story, such as his buying them groceries for a whole year and arranging to have them delivered on a semi-weekly schedule or something....Or his doing so had some sort of great stroke of luck associated with it...just something that transcends "doing the right thing" because it's the right thing to do.

Then I read that he bought a few weeks worth of groceries for his ex and child. Okay, but isn't grocery shopping for most Americans a "shopping for a few weeks" sort of thing? I know when I grocery shop, it's a matter of stopping at the store on the way home and buying whatever looks good and that I feel like I want to cook that evening. For that reason, there're almost never much in the way of groceries in my house. I have lots of condiments, seasoning and spices, and just about anything one might want to slake a thirst. Maybe these people live in a city, and that style of grocery shopping in the norm. Well, he lives in Florida, but we aren't told where.

Reading on, I find out the man visited his daughter because he learned she was ill, and upon doing so, he observed what he deemed a dearth of groceries in the house. That's why he bought the groceries. Great. He saw a problem that needed fixing and he fixed it.

Fine, but I'm still just seeing a dude who's doing what he's supposed to be doing. I'm still looking for what's sensational about the man. I read that he posted a photo of the grocery bill, which seems really bizarre to me, but whatever....people gratuitously post on social media all sorts of "look at what I did" stuff I wouldn't think worth mentioning were I to have done it, so I guess that is what it is. I finished reading the article and, frankly, I didn't find anything that struck me as the man having done anything other than his duty as a co-parent and father.

Say what you want of my thinking that, but I wasn't raised to think that one deserves praise, notoriety, etc. for doing what one is supposed to do.

• I didn't get praised for earning straight As in school because doing that is what I was sent there to do. I wouldn't have been sent to the schools I was were it not apparent to my parents that I was capable of doing so.
• There were no unusual accolades for behaving well, because I was supposed to be well behaved.
• Throughout my career, there has never been any "bonus" for me or anyone else who merely meets expectations. There's no downside for that; it's just that one isn't going to get any notice or "special reward" for doing so. I/we pay people to, at the very least, meet expectations, and meeting them is sufficient, but that's all it is.

The "baby mama" is a woman he cared enough about to "bang" and have a child with. She and he have jobs and homes and a kid they both must care for. If the mother has primary custody of the child, it stands to reason that her wellbeing is crucial to their daughter's sufficiency. So, if Mama is overloaded at the time, yes, it's his responsibility to step-up and take care of things that normally she might handle on her own. Their family circumstances may be non-traditional, so to speak, but a family they are nonetheless. That's that. And that's the source of my wonderment about Mr. Carpenter's receiving acclaim for meeting what unquestionably is the bar for being a typically good co-parent, father and human being.

He helped the mother of his child because he felt compassion for her and for his daughter. He bought several weeks worth of groceries to make sure she had more than enough to get her through. It's very simple. Don't overthink it.

 

[Old Rocks]

So you know I clicked on the source link in the OP. The first thing I see is the article's headline: "Kindhearted dad becomes online sensation after he buys groceries for his ex when he realized she was too busy caring for their sick baby daughter to get to the store."

My thoughts: Oookaaay....Why the hell is his doing what he should be doing resulting in his becoming an "online sensation?" What am I missing here? A man buying groceries for his "baby mama" is enough to cause a "sensation?" Really?

Whatever...I kept reading, thinking maybe there's more to this story, such as his buying them groceries for a whole year and arranging to have them delivered on a semi-weekly schedule or something....Or his doing so had some sort of great stroke of luck associated with it...just something that transcends "doing the right thing" because it's the right thing to do.

Then I read that he bought a few weeks worth of groceries for his ex and child. Okay, but isn't grocery shopping for most Americans a "shopping for a few weeks" sort of thing? I know when I grocery shop, it's a matter of stopping at the store on the way home and buying whatever looks good and that I feel like I want to cook that evening. For that reason, there're almost never much in the way of groceries in my house. I have lots of condiments, seasoning and spices, and just about anything one might want to slake a thirst. Maybe these people live in a city, and that style of grocery shopping in the norm. Well, he lives in Florida, but we aren't told where.

Reading on, I find out the man visited his daughter because he learned she was ill, and upon doing so, he observed what he deemed a dearth of groceries in the house. That's why he bought the groceries. Great. He saw a problem that needed fixing and he fixed it.

Fine, but I'm still just seeing a dude who's doing what he's supposed to be doing. I'm still looking for what's sensational about the man. I read that he posted a photo of the grocery bill, which seems really bizarre to me, but whatever....people gratuitously post on social media all sorts of "look at what I did" stuff I wouldn't think worth mentioning were I to have done it, so I guess that is what it is. I finished reading the article and, frankly, I didn't find anything that struck me as the man having done anything other than his duty as a co-parent and father.

Say what you want of my thinking that, but I wasn't raised to think that one deserves praise, notoriety, etc. for doing what one is supposed to do.

• I didn't get praised for earning straight As in school because doing that is what I was sent there to do. I wouldn't have been sent to the schools I was were it not apparent to my parents that I was capable of doing so.
• There were no unusual accolades for behaving well, because I was supposed to be well behaved.
• Throughout my career, there has never been any "bonus" for me or anyone else who merely meets expectations. There's no downside for that; it's just that one isn't going to get any notice or "special reward" for doing so. I/we pay people to, at the very least, meet expectations, and meeting them is sufficient, but that's all it is.

The "baby mama" is a woman he cared enough about to "bang" and have a child with. She and he have jobs and homes and a kid they both must care for. If the mother has primary custody of the child, it stands to reason that her wellbeing is crucial to their daughter's sufficiency. So, if Mama is overloaded at the time, yes, it's his responsibility to step-up and take care of things that normally she might handle on her own. Their family circumstances may be non-traditional, so to speak, but a family they are nonetheless. That's that. And that's the source of my wonderment about Mr. Carpenter's receiving acclaim for meeting what unquestionably is the bar for being a typically good co-parent, father and human being.

Very simple, because so many today are acting only on their own feelings of resentment and hurt, and don't seem to give a damn where there is a child involved. The man did the right thing, and that should be celebrated, and be held as an example of what we all should be like. I enjoy stories like that much more than the stories of people who receive no help from those that should be first in line to help.