- Aug 10, 2009
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My first wife died many years ago after we had four children. My second wife was a friend of my first wife. I did not know it, but the first one "willed" me to the second one. I did not find out until years later.
What worked in both marriages was this: be honest, don't judge others by actions when judging yourself by grace, remember the important days, managing on one income while having two incomes and being in debt only on the mortgage, understanding my wife(s) is generally smarter than I am about relationships, my wife(s) understanding my male frail ego so letting me be "in charge" (after she concurred on whatever we were pondering), and committed to do no harm in the marriage.
I have been a very fortunate man and husband and father.
What worked in both marriages was this: be honest, don't judge others by actions when judging yourself by grace, remember the important days, managing on one income while having two incomes and being in debt only on the mortgage, understanding my wife(s) is generally smarter than I am about relationships, my wife(s) understanding my male frail ego so letting me be "in charge" (after she concurred on whatever we were pondering), and committed to do no harm in the marriage.
I have been a very fortunate man and husband and father.