Dear Abby, My Husband is a cheat & a liar. He cheated on me from the beginning; when I confront him he denies everything. What's worse, everyone knows that he cheats on me. It is so humiliating. Also since he lost his job 5 years ago, he hasn't even looked for a new one. All he does is smoke cigars, cruise around shooting the bull with his buddies while I have to work to pay the bills. Since our daughter went away to college he doesn't even pretend to like me & hints that I may be a lesbian. What should I do? Signed Clueless Dear Clueless ----- Grow up & dump him. Good grief woman, you don't need him anymore. You're a United States Senator from New York, act like one!