Chinese Parenting Tips

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    Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior - WSJ.com

    Fascinating.

    Comments?
     
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    I like their fire drills.
     
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    factor in the suicide rates of chinese kids who are pressured from jump to be the best ... these kids are driven from early childhood
     
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    Is it true that when Chinese children are berated by their chinese parents to do better in school, an hour after they need to be berated again?
     
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    I don't know and I"ll have to check out the suicide rates. But it certainly makes sense as to why so many are successful.

    I regret not pushing my kids harder in school. They are smart kids and got ok grades but being on the honor roll was never a goal. I blame myself.
     
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    o drop the fucking guilt bag there chanel.....my son managed to go from being ask not to come back to one university to honor roll at another....i had nothing to do with his partying at the first school nor his studying at the next one...

    there are a lot of chinese who arent a bag of chips and more....

    stop blaming yourself.
     
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    One thing I have to give credit to the Chinese culture for is this...teaching people to be SAVERS.

    source
     
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    This isn't a one way street when it comes to Asian parents.

    They sacrifice everything for their children to receive the best education possible.

    Asian parents will move into an area that is way above their income and rent a crummy house.

    Just so that their kids can attend the best schools from kindergarten on.


    Some times on my way to work I drive by two of the top schools in the nation.

    Believe me, every other students face I see is an Asian kid with a huge back pack full of books.
     
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    Some cultures value family and education. Others don't.

    In Japan they're called "Kyoiku Mama" or education crazy for pushing their kids so hard. The reason being is that kids compete to enter the best Jr. High and High Schools which weigh heavily on what Universities they can attend. Grades actually matter less than what school they attended.

    In Japan, it's hard to get into a school but once they're in, it's hard to fail. Whereas in America, it's easy to get into a University but hard to graduate.

    But after all is said and done, It's my opinion that the Japanese are the "Worlds Best Educated Stupid People". (Calm down people, my wife's Japanese but very Americanized) Because even after all that education they still fear the unknown and will gravitate towards their own kind.
     
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    Chanel, I wasn't aware of this article until now. I finished reading it and found it fascinating. We are raising our children in a similar fashion and I agree that Westerners, in general, are too concerned with their children's self-esteem.

    I think Amy Chua encapsulates brilliantly the Chinese philosophy here:

    "But if done properly, the Chinese strategy produces a virtuous circle. Tenacious practice, practice, practice is crucial for excellence; rote repetition is underrated in America. Once a child starts to excel at something—whether it's math, piano, pitching or ballet—he or she gets praise, admiration and satisfaction. This builds confidence and makes the once not-fun activity fun. This in turn makes it easier for the parent to get the child to work even more."

    Thanks for posting the article! Loved it.
     

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