NYT had an article about more men being caretakers for elderly parents, now I've just run across this: Caring.com My folks had moved to FL after my mom suffered a stroke in 1995. In 2000 they came here for my son's graduation from middle school and daughter's from HS. My mom fell and broke her hip, from that time on she and my dad lived mostly with me, (for about 4 months while doing pt and actually beginning to walk again she lived with my brother's family as they have a ranch home. Then her hip broke again, that's when they moved in here.) I was lucky that my folks had enough money to have 24 hour nursing for my mom and that we finally found one caretaker willing to move in, rather than rotating 3. I wouldn't say it was 'easy', even with the help. Hospital bed in living room and wheel chair on carpeting took a toll on my house. It's very difficult watching someone who was quite brilliant, slowly losing control of things once taken for granted. I can honestly say though, I'm glad we were able to keep her home until the last year, multiple TIA's and advanced osteoporosis made her too fragile. My dad lived with us until he died a year ago. My folks had let my then husband and I live with them for about 3 months before we moved into our first house. When I divorced, my kids and I lived with them for over a year, indeed we stayed there for a while when they moved to FL. My brother and his wife lived with them when they built their first home. There was no question that when we needed them, they were there, so the time came to return the favor. While concerned at the time of what the toll on my kids was, I came to realize they gained understanding and patience that may never have developed if not caring for others. Anyone else ever care for aging parents or fear that the time may be coming?