You are a sweetheart.... I have been pretty busy over the holidays with the kids. I am also reading up on winter blues, circadian rhythms, sleep deprivation, mood cycling disorders, etc with my son. I think I may be on to something.
Well, it looks like you are doing everything you can. All I can say is hold tight and hope and pray he gets in that school! Or you could move to Indiana and put him in the one here, this was it's first year, it's right by Butler University's campus, beautiful grounds and buildings there.
Have you tried a parent advocate? Called the superintendent of your schools? The head of special ed? The state special ed department? It sounds like you school system isn't fully trained in helping students with autism. I attended a workshop this summer for training, it was eye opening. Too many teachers "yell" at these kids, which is NOT effective. They can't understand what the yelling is about, and go further in their own world. Also, encourage his artistic side if he's into that, or music..But I'm sure you know all of this. It makes me so mad to see these kids treated like this, I know it has to be frustrating to you! I hope you can get him in that school! One opened up here in Indy, I'm going to apply there for next year, tho I really love teaching my kids in the inner city. I have MiMH,LD and students with autism in my classroom, and we really are one big happy family in there! It's a place where they feel safe and loved, and they can learn in a peaceful environment!