Government will always result in unequal laws if it involves force
Can force be kept as a choice to compel negotiations so it does not have to be used?
(1) For military arms, the ability to offer both the 'carrot' and the 'stick' compels everyone to go for the carrot. The problem is not offering equal choice of both, including accounting for people's egos and resistance to change or outside influence, which must be included in the equation. The best use of defense is as a deterrent NOT to have to use force.
(2) Even for the death penalty, it has been argued that the choice is necessary to compel parties to cooperate with authorities instead of denying wrongdoing. We could also give the state authority to revoke citizenship if offenders hold back information that denies justice or obstructs due process; so that in order to invoke rights under law the parties must agree to respect the same.
(3) For using civil courts and legal action as an alternative to using physical arms to defend one's rights property and persons, threatening to sue and charge the wrongdoer for all the costs and damages should serve as motivation to mediate instead; again, the main factors preventing this is rewarding more people for suing than for mediating and saving costs, and also not offering an equitable solution so people have a choice that would resolve the issue.
In all these examples, the choice to go to war, to use force of law or threat of death can be used to compel parties NOT to have to go there. Do you agree? Frankly I don't see people agreeing to give up the choice of going to war or having the death penalty. I see we can reduce the need to resort to these options, by improving alternative means of avoiding them.
This requires equal knowledge of the laws, so people make informed choices and don't rely on political bullying coercion or oppression to defend their freedom and rights under law. When people understand "the law of reciprocity" applies to ALL laws, church or state, that you get the justice you give, then we will eventually learn to enforce for others the level of rights and freedoms we want for ourselves; so when we are sick of being bullied back maybe we will quit bullying others. This can only be taught by choice, not by retribution and bullying back and forth as punishment, or else the vicious cycle just keeps going and going.