My grandfather told me awhile ago that a common bond his generation had was the phrase "where were you during Pearl Harbor?" It acted as an ice breaker and a unifier, providing an avenue to talk about and cope with the attrocity while preserving the memory and the significance of the event. Unfortunately 9-11 looks to be my generation's "where were you during" event. So, in the hopes of advancing the goals I just mentioned: Where were you during 9-11? I was at my girlfriend's apartment in college, we had just woken up to watch a little tv and have breakfast. Her roomates had CNN on which was VERY odd. They never watched the news. The gf left for class before the reality of what was really going on set in, (she started 2 hours earlier than me that day) and I sat down on the couch. She was back 15 minutes later because class was cancelled, and then we sat on that couch for over 5 hours, at which point we got up and just walked, stunned. I don't think we spoke for most of the day. The next memory I have is the campus-wide vigil that was the largest assembly of students I ever saw on campus.