RodISHI
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The poor you will have always. The problem is government isn't the answer as it creates more problems. Many children suffer a worst fate when the state or a man made church "thinks" that they are "doing the right" thing: When in fact they are operated by clueless plebes. I was treated like scum at my school by many of the officials because of my irrational family members. Willy nilly educators are not the answer for all as they can also cause more problems.You do live in a fairy tale world. I left home before I was 12. Married the same guy who helped me escape at 15. Unless you have lived a perfect life yourself I don't see where you have any place to deny another their personal choice in matters where a person made their own decisions based on their personal life situations. Teenagers have sex. Some get pregnant and desire to marry for the sake of their children. For some of us the choices we made fully on our own were made as a matter of survival.I can see prohibiting forced child marriage. A blanket ban against child marriage isn't necessary. I was married at 15. I would not permit someone presuming they knew better for me than I did.There is not enough information in this article to determine what happened and the context in which it happened.
That said, how about passing some strong laws in each of the 50 states to ban child marriage and keep adults away from our kids. There are adults out there who are "marrying" teenagers and getting away with it.
A blanket ban on child marriage is very necessary. Were you the same person at 25 as you were at 15, thinking that you were "in love"? Everybody thinks that they are in love at 15, but they don't know any better, particularly if they have never been taught the difference between lust and love, have been fed "handsome prince coming to save you" fairy tales, and/or been groomed by cults. Were you put in a position of taking orders from your husband? Did you finish college, choose a career, train for it? How many kids did you have before the age of 20? Did you struggle to support them?
Society must protect kids, particularly girls, from this until they can become adults. They are one-half of our brain-trust, and we will continue to complete with the likes of China, Japan, and India, too name a few.
I don't doubt your situation when you were 15. At the same age, I finally got up enough courage to go to the guidance office and ask the school officials for family counseling and a foster home because I was being raised in a house where fear of abuse was prevalent and I walked on eggshells. But as this was a somewhat upscale neighborhood, my mother (the great saint of Catholicism in her lacy mantilla at the Vatican) was able to ward off the authorities. Years later, she told me that she notified them that I was "a very spoiled little girl." You were not protected. I was not protected.
The goal in the present moment is to make sure that these things never, ever happen to anyone, boys as well as girls, and that all children are protected from sexual predators until they can grow up and pursue their dreams. If there ever is a time for the saying "never again," one of those times is now.