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    An old Sufi tradition advises us to speak only after our words have managed to pass through four gates. At the first gate, we ask ourselves, "Are these words true?" If so, we let them pass on; if not, back they go. At the second gate we ask; "Are they necessary?" At the third gate we ask; "Are they beneficial?" and at the fourth gate, we ask, "Are they kind?"

    If the answer to any of these is no, then what you are about to say should be left unsaid.
     
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    My woman is always getting on me about my cussin'. My gate appears to be broken.
     
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    If we followed all those rules, the board would be blank :)
     
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    There would be deep silences between sincere, thoughtful and kind posts.
     
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    Interesting. I was reading a book of Meditation just last week and the write quoted three of those four gates. He left out the beneficial one.

    Likely because If they are kind, they more than likely are beneficial.

    I agree that we need to learn to control our tongues and minds a bit better than we have as a society. We have the right to speak freely. That doesn't mean it's good to speak without thought. To speak crudely or to speak hurtfully. It doesnt mean it's good lie.

    All of our rights come with coresponding responsibilities. We have a responsibility to ourselves and to others to speak the truth. We have a responsibility to speak with kindness and charity. We have a responsibility to make our speech edifying. These are things we need to learn in order to truly be able to govern ourselves and make it so that we are a force for good in the world and not indifference or worse, evil.

    I've especially been working on my speech lately. I've been trying to eliminate the sarcasm especially. It serves no purpose and is unkind. I failed earlier today though. I was very sarcastic. Old habits die hard sometimes.
     
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    I dont believe that's true. If each and every one of us followed these rules, I think we would all be having much more enlightening and edifying discussions.

    There wouldn't be as many threads. We wouldnt be talking past each other through our pride and we would be able to trust one another and be more united, despite any differences we might have.
     
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    So... :dunno: Where does that leave those of us who show a real talent for the true ART of bullshitting?
     
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    Bullshitting is pretending to abide by these four gates when you don't. The fact that you know you're bullshitting makes you halfway there already.
     
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