Annie
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Well, you should quit harping then, because they don't.
I don't think men should be cheated out of higher quality relationships with their children because they have to put food on the table. And then later cheated out of custody should a divorce rear its ugly head and they get the label of not being the "primary caretaker". Works both ways.
They all can be rectified by personal choices. There is no real "problem", not counting the one between your ears.
Some of what you say is true, some is as nonsensical as rants that women should be able to make choices without consequences.
The 'mommy track' has always been about upper middle class and upper class women. I could stay home for 14 years, well because I could. To me the sacrifices, (more than a vacation a year, more restaurants than four or five a month, a Caravan rather than a Volvo), were worth being home. My choice and my spouse's. If he'd been make $50k, probably would have been a no go, not for that long.
Did I pay a higher price for being out of the work world for so long? Yep, upon divorce I was in a tough place. Then again, child support helped me get my children raised and I was able to find a position. I already had two degrees, going back for a third and teaching credentials wasn't a problem. However being nearly 40 and taking a new career track was.
Bottom line, the choices I made were mine. From getting married, to having three children, to staying home, to returning to school.