Jealously in relationships

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    Is jealously in a realtionship evidence of someone feeling cheated out of something ? A fear that it may happen or has someones behavior already been construed as cheating or not fulfilling an expectation of exclusiveness ?
     
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    Interesting question. By jealousy, do you mean, rip roaring insane, hurling accusations jealous, or just a mild discomfort?

    I try not to be jealous, in general. It rears it's ugly head every so often, I suppose (the mild discomfort type). In general, I would think it's just being concerned about what you can't see and, for whatever reason, not feeling sure enough of the other person to know that whatever is going on, isn't taking anything away from you. It could also well be that the other person is doing things which make you question the relationship. That can spill into jealousy, I suppose.

    I have one friend whom I think would define jealousy as being insecure.
     
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    I'm open for all degrees of jealousy. I just thought it fit with the discussion on cheating but separated it for the sake of clarity.
    Is it a sign of another realtionship expectation that is in jeopardy ?
     
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    Just my opinion, but I think jealousy is less a reflection on the relationship than it is a reflection of the person who is feeling jealous. (unless the other person is intentionally doing things to make the other person feel jealous to feed their own issues).
     
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    I tend to agree but is it another indication that the weird unspoken rules in a marriage contract have been broken---at least in the eyes of one partner ?
     
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    I have to think about that one. Wouldn't mind seeing what others have to say on this subject.
     
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    Crossed my mind so I threw it out there. Some folks have some pretty good perspectives on things here.
     
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    When jealousy is justified, it is really jealousy?

    In that case, it seems to me it is the just final alert to the other person that whatever they are doing is not going to fly much longer.

    OTOH, if it is based on one's imagination and insecurity, well then...it's a personal problem that will probably wreck a good relationship.
     
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    Who determines if it's justified ?
     
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    The women!
    And the only times I have been jealous, I later found out even the guy told me I was being crazy that I had good reason to be!
     

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