High_Gravity
Belligerent Drunk
Sometimes I think the old caveman way of pulling the woman by the hair and taking her is the best way....
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Hubby and I grew up in different denominations and chose a third different denomination as a compromise for our differing traditions.
Lemme guess...
You're Christian and he's muslim, so you got married in a synagog?
There was a wedding announcement made just before Christmas by my middle daughter. As things have progressed rapidly since, I was informed yesterday that the church of choice was probably going to be her Mom's church and not the one I go to and my daughter was confirmed in. Reason? Her future husband is more "comfortable" in the other church.
Some background is good here. My daughter's mom and I are not married any more. The future husband's family lives several hours away and apparently does not attend church. Mom is Baptist, Dad is Lutheran. Most likely I'm missing some other helpful information. Sorry.
My thoughts when asked about her plans were the following:
1. Choosing personality of a pastor as a reason for using a church outside your religion is not a valid reason. Your beliefs should not be dependent on who is in the pulpit.
2. If you are planning to switch religions, then you have a good reason.
3. If you are planning to stay Lutheran, you owe your future husband some honesty on your intentions.
There was a wedding announcement made just before Christmas by my middle daughter. As things have progressed rapidly since, I was informed yesterday that the church of choice was probably going to be her Mom's church and not the one I go to and my daughter was confirmed in. Reason? Her future husband is more "comfortable" in the other church.
Some background is good here. My daughter's mom and I are not married any more. The future husband's family lives several hours away and apparently does not attend church. Mom is Baptist, Dad is Lutheran. Most likely I'm missing some other helpful information. Sorry.
My thoughts when asked about her plans were the following:
1. Choosing personality of a pastor as a reason for using a church outside your religion is not a valid reason. Your beliefs should not be dependent on who is in the pulpit.
2. If you are planning to switch religions, then you have a good reason.
3. If you are planning to stay Lutheran, you owe your future husband some honesty on your intentions.
There was a wedding announcement made just before Christmas by my middle daughter. As things have progressed rapidly since, I was informed yesterday that the church of choice was probably going to be her Mom's church and not the one I go to and my daughter was confirmed in. Reason? Her future husband is more "comfortable" in the other church.
Some background is good here. My daughter's mom and I are not married any more. The future husband's family lives several hours away and apparently does not attend church. Mom is Baptist, Dad is Lutheran. Most likely I'm missing some other helpful information. Sorry.
My thoughts when asked about her plans were the following:
1. Choosing personality of a pastor as a reason for using a church outside your religion is not a valid reason. Your beliefs should not be dependent on who is in the pulpit.
2. If you are planning to switch religions, then you have a good reason.
3. If you are planning to stay Lutheran, you owe your future husband some honesty on your intentions.
Hi SL, I was curious as to what all was involved as far as 'changing beliefs' by going from Lutheran to Baptist? I was raised Catholic, switched to Lutheran and now I go to a non-denominational Christian church. I'm not seeing a great deal of difference between the Lutheran and the non-denominational outside of church, i.e. manmade rituals. The core beliefs are pretty much the same. So, what do you see that is drastically different?
Sounds like they'd be better off eloping.
There was a wedding announcement made just before Christmas by my middle daughter. As things have progressed rapidly since, I was informed yesterday that the church of choice was probably going to be her Mom's church and not the one I go to and my daughter was confirmed in. Reason? Her future husband is more "comfortable" in the other church.
Some background is good here. My daughter's mom and I are not married any more. The future husband's family lives several hours away and apparently does not attend church. Mom is Baptist, Dad is Lutheran. Most likely I'm missing some other helpful information. Sorry.
My thoughts when asked about her plans were the following:
1. Choosing personality of a pastor as a reason for using a church outside your religion is not a valid reason. Your beliefs should not be dependent on who is in the pulpit.
2. If you are planning to switch religions, then you have a good reason.
3. If you are planning to stay Lutheran, you owe your future husband some honesty on your intentions.
I've never understood that either. It kind of makes all Catholic marriage, good or bad, seem like a sham.I don't quite understand how, after 7 years of marriage, they can say it never happened . . . .
Okay, maybe you're a good dad afterall. These are very valid points. Seeing as you and her mother divorced, she have already learned some not so smart ways of compromise in relationships. It may be that she has to make her own mistakes before she can learn from them.My daughter appears to be tiptoeing around feelings instead of resolving an issue of religion. I only suggested dealing with those things now. BEFORE getting married and finding she didn't get what she thought.
There was a wedding announcement made just before Christmas by my middle daughter. As things have progressed rapidly since, I was informed yesterday that the church of choice was probably going to be her Mom's church and not the one I go to and my daughter was confirmed in. Reason? Her future husband is more "comfortable" in the other church.
Some background is good here. My daughter's mom and I are not married any more. The future husband's family lives several hours away and apparently does not attend church. Mom is Baptist, Dad is Lutheran. Most likely I'm missing some other helpful information. Sorry.
My thoughts when asked about her plans were the following:
1. Choosing personality of a pastor as a reason for using a church outside your religion is not a valid reason. Your beliefs should not be dependent on who is in the pulpit.
2. If you are planning to switch religions, then you have a good reason.
3. If you are planning to stay Lutheran, you owe your future husband some honesty on your intentions.
Hi SL, I was curious as to what all was involved as far as 'changing beliefs' by going from Lutheran to Baptist? I was raised Catholic, switched to Lutheran and now I go to a non-denominational Christian church. I'm not seeing a great deal of difference between the Lutheran and the non-denominational outside of church, i.e. manmade rituals. The core beliefs are pretty much the same. So, what do you see that is drastically different?
As the name implies, Baptism is different. Baptist REQUIRE full immersion to be considered a baptism. Can't go to heaven unless your baptized, so it is a pretty big difference.
The choice of church should be the least of your worries.
You might have to end up paying for one of those ridiculous weddings at a catering hall with the band and th efood and the open bar and all.
And with the average marriage lasting only five years or so, you could end up making payments on the wedding long after the marriage has been dissolved.
I never said she was abandoning her beliefs. Actually, I was asked what I thought of her getting married in a Baptist church that her husband does not belong to and neither does she. The whole concept of where she is getting married is being reevaluated as I understand it.
They attended church with me last Sunday and a respected teacher my daughter had in high school asked her if she was getting married at the church. I think it is sinking in there are expectations from many about where this is going to take place.
I just want an open and honest discussion of what they are planning on doing for their spiritual future. Seems like that is happening.