Age Difference Remark I've Never Understood

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    I'm a forty-year-old woman. My friends, typically, are men in their early twenties or so. As an example, my two closest buddies at the moment are 24 and 19 (both male). This isn't any deliberate choice on my part. It's simply that many of my hobbies and interests tend to be things that attract mostly men in that age group.

    What I don't understand is that people are always glibly telling me that a woman my age shouldn't have anything in common with men that age. This always confuses me, and I can't ever get a clarification on it. WHY shouldn't I have anything in common with a 24-year-old man? It isn't as though a 16-year age difference makes us from different species. Is there some magic age at which the hobbies and things I liked when I was twenty should have changed to whatever the hell it is a forty-year-old woman is "supposed" to do?

    I can certainly understand if people were accusing me of being a predatory dirty old woman trying to get my sexual hooks into young boys (which I do sometimes hear). But that isn't the same thing. For one thing, merely saying that acknowledges the one thing any heterosexual man and heterosexual woman have in common, at least in theory. And I can understand and agree with the idea that we're not at the same place in our lives, although that doesn't necessarily make me an undesirable friend to them, since I can offer advice and perspective based on life experience that they don't otherwise have available.

    Can any of you shed light on what these "age-appropriate" interests are that I'm supposed to have, that are apparently supposed to make me incapable of relating to and enjoying the company of someone younger than me?
     
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    no. thanks for asking.
     
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    Well, now...in the interests of reciprocation...need a new avatar? ;)

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    Talk about a thread that has no right answer too..
     
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    eek! It doesn't surprise me that you can't relate to women in your peer group in real life.
     
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    Welcome to the world of straight people, where it's always about sex ... sorry, but that's what they are thinking, that your and the men's interest is in "dating" or sexual.
     
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    Pay no attention to the idle gossip and chatter, Cecile.

    These biddies are jealous, that's all.
     
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    You know 19-24 year old men that are interested in knitting and quilting?
    Are you sure they aren't gay?

    Seriously though, I'm in my mid-40's and have friends (both male and female) that range in age from 20 to 70. Friendships based upon common interest. I only get comments about the female friends that are either significantly older or younger than I am.
     
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    my friends range in age from 16...to well over 80......i am get on well with younger men and why does everyone assumes its the older women doing the chasinging....my son is 26..he talks about cougars a lot....i am not sure he is cougar meat...he is more the shogun type
     

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