basquebromance
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My observation is that if there is a tight relationship and one party is betrayed by the other (falling in love with another person), it's almost always irreconcilable.
I have seen people grow up and not do it again. And this was in situations where their partner didn't know. In a couple of those situations, it seemed that it might even be described as a necessary experience for the person who did it. It helped them develop. I am NOT justifying that behaviour, but life is complicated.
However, I think society works better, all things considered, when you make a promise. And you stick to it. One of the things I learned from reading Jung was that there are things in a marriage that you can't have unless you're all in. I believe that. If there's a back door open, to begin with, or a back door opens, then I think there's something about the relationship that's lacking at least, and I think you pay a huge price for that.
I have seen people grow up and not do it again. And this was in situations where their partner didn't know. In a couple of those situations, it seemed that it might even be described as a necessary experience for the person who did it. It helped them develop. I am NOT justifying that behaviour, but life is complicated.
However, I think society works better, all things considered, when you make a promise. And you stick to it. One of the things I learned from reading Jung was that there are things in a marriage that you can't have unless you're all in. I believe that. If there's a back door open, to begin with, or a back door opens, then I think there's something about the relationship that's lacking at least, and I think you pay a huge price for that.