Elderly Gay Couple Forcibly Separated, Abused, Robbed By County Officials in CA

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Clay and his partner of 20 years, Harold, lived in California. Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place—wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other. Harold was 88 years old and in frail medical condition, but still living at home with Clay, 77, who was in good health.

One evening, Harold fell down the front steps of their home and was taken to the hospital. Based on their medical directives alone, Clay should have been consulted in Harold’s care from the first moment. Tragically, county and health care workers instead refused to allow Clay to see Harold in the hospital. The county then ultimately went one step further by isolating the couple from each other, placing the men in separate nursing homes. Ignoring Clay’s significant role in Harold’s life, the county continued to treat Harold like he had no family and went to court seeking the power to make financial decisions on his behalf. Outrageously, the county represented to the judge that Clay was merely Harold’s “roommate.” The court denied their efforts, but did grant the county limited access to one of Harold’s bank accounts to pay for his care.

What happened next is even more chilling: without authority, without determining the value of Clay and Harold’s possessions accumulated over the course of their 20 years together or making any effort to determine which items belonged to whom, the county took everything Harold and Clay owned and auctioned off all of their belongings. Adding further insult to grave injury, the county removed Clay from his home and confined him to a nursing home against his will. The county workers then terminated Clay and Harold's lease and surrendered the home they had shared for many years to the landlord.

Three months after he was hospitalized, Harold died in the nursing home. Because of the county’s actions, Clay missed the final months he should have had with his partner of 20 years. Compounding this tragedy, Clay has literally nothing left of the home he had shared with Harold or the life he was living up until the day that Harold fell, because he has been unable to recover any of his property.

Clay is now suing the county, the auction company, and the nursing home.

I hope he gets every red cent from all three parties involved.
 

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Elderly Gay Couple Forcibly Separated, Abused, Robbed By County Officials in California | Slog | The Stranger, Seattle's Only Newspaper

Clay and his partner of 20 years, Harold, lived in California. Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place—wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other. Harold was 88 years old and in frail medical condition, but still living at home with Clay, 77, who was in good health.

One evening, Harold fell down the front steps of their home and was taken to the hospital. Based on their medical directives alone, Clay should have been consulted in Harold’s care from the first moment. Tragically, county and health care workers instead refused to allow Clay to see Harold in the hospital. The county then ultimately went one step further by isolating the couple from each other, placing the men in separate nursing homes. Ignoring Clay’s significant role in Harold’s life, the county continued to treat Harold like he had no family and went to court seeking the power to make financial decisions on his behalf. Outrageously, the county represented to the judge that Clay was merely Harold’s “roommate.” The court denied their efforts, but did grant the county limited access to one of Harold’s bank accounts to pay for his care.

What happened next is even more chilling: without authority, without determining the value of Clay and Harold’s possessions accumulated over the course of their 20 years together or making any effort to determine which items belonged to whom, the county took everything Harold and Clay owned and auctioned off all of their belongings. Adding further insult to grave injury, the county removed Clay from his home and confined him to a nursing home against his will. The county workers then terminated Clay and Harold's lease and surrendered the home they had shared for many years to the landlord.

Three months after he was hospitalized, Harold died in the nursing home. Because of the county’s actions, Clay missed the final months he should have had with his partner of 20 years. Compounding this tragedy, Clay has literally nothing left of the home he had shared with Harold or the life he was living up until the day that Harold fell, because he has been unable to recover any of his property.

Clay is now suing the county, the auction company, and the nursing home.

I hope he gets every red cent from all three parties involved.

Just an illustration of abusive government. Give them enough power and they will abuse it.
 

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Problem is they abused power they didn't even come close to having.
 

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Elderly Gay Couple Forcibly Separated, Abused, Robbed By County Officials in California | Slog | The Stranger, Seattle's Only Newspaper

Clay and his partner of 20 years, Harold, lived in California. Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place—wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other. Harold was 88 years old and in frail medical condition, but still living at home with Clay, 77, who was in good health.

One evening, Harold fell down the front steps of their home and was taken to the hospital. Based on their medical directives alone, Clay should have been consulted in Harold’s care from the first moment. Tragically, county and health care workers instead refused to allow Clay to see Harold in the hospital. The county then ultimately went one step further by isolating the couple from each other, placing the men in separate nursing homes. Ignoring Clay’s significant role in Harold’s life, the county continued to treat Harold like he had no family and went to court seeking the power to make financial decisions on his behalf. Outrageously, the county represented to the judge that Clay was merely Harold’s “roommate.” The court denied their efforts, but did grant the county limited access to one of Harold’s bank accounts to pay for his care.

What happened next is even more chilling: without authority, without determining the value of Clay and Harold’s possessions accumulated over the course of their 20 years together or making any effort to determine which items belonged to whom, the county took everything Harold and Clay owned and auctioned off all of their belongings. Adding further insult to grave injury, the county removed Clay from his home and confined him to a nursing home against his will. The county workers then terminated Clay and Harold's lease and surrendered the home they had shared for many years to the landlord.

Three months after he was hospitalized, Harold died in the nursing home. Because of the county’s actions, Clay missed the final months he should have had with his partner of 20 years. Compounding this tragedy, Clay has literally nothing left of the home he had shared with Harold or the life he was living up until the day that Harold fell, because he has been unable to recover any of his property.

Clay is now suing the county, the auction company, and the nursing home.

I hope he gets every red cent from all three parties involved.

I hope he gets MORE than he's asking for.

It's outrageous that he has lost everything he's worked for his entire life because his partner fell down the steps and was hospitalized.

It's outrageous that county and healthcare workers ignored the vital paperwork in place that would have prevented ALL OF THIS from occuring. There is NO EXCUSE for these abuses...and that's what they are. ABUSES.

Abuses...simply because someone could treat these two older gentlemen anyway they wanted, including THE JUDGE (damn him to hell).

Yeah...I hope another Judge grants him everything he asks for, and THEN SOME.

What happened to these men is outrageous on the grandest scale.

And if it could happen to them....it could happen to me or you, or anyone else.

Anyone who disagrees needs to think about that for awhile.

They came for the Jews, and I said nothing.....

They came for the.....and I said nothing....

When they came for me, there was noone left to speak....
 
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Problem is they abused power they didn't even come close to having.

Couldn't agree more.

Everyone involved, including the Judge and county workers abused power they didn't have, never had, and never will have...simply because they decided they could.

On any other level, this would be considered a conspiracy to defraud these two men, on par with what Bernie Madoff pulled off, because YOU KNOW these two gentlemen aren't the *only* people who've been treated this way.

Everyone involved thought they had this power---because they've been doing this to people for a long time and they THINK it's OK, because they've gotten away with it. Nobody has spoken out on behalf of their many victims.

It's time We, The People correct the arrogance of our goverment, and our arrogant government workers. They WORK FOR US, not the other way around.
 
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ya do realize this happens to hetrosexual people daily too?

Ayep....and they've been pulling this shit on Americans WAY too long.

It's time to boot the arrogant government workers all the way to the curb.

We, The People give away WAY too many of our rights to these thugs.
 

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Elderly Gay Couple Forcibly Separated, Abused, Robbed By County Officials in California | Slog | The Stranger, Seattle's Only Newspaper

Clay and his partner of 20 years, Harold, lived in California. Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place—wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other. Harold was 88 years old and in frail medical condition, but still living at home with Clay, 77, who was in good health.

One evening, Harold fell down the front steps of their home and was taken to the hospital. Based on their medical directives alone, Clay should have been consulted in Harold’s care from the first moment. Tragically, county and health care workers instead refused to allow Clay to see Harold in the hospital. The county then ultimately went one step further by isolating the couple from each other, placing the men in separate nursing homes. Ignoring Clay’s significant role in Harold’s life, the county continued to treat Harold like he had no family and went to court seeking the power to make financial decisions on his behalf. Outrageously, the county represented to the judge that Clay was merely Harold’s “roommate.” The court denied their efforts, but did grant the county limited access to one of Harold’s bank accounts to pay for his care.

What happened next is even more chilling: without authority, without determining the value of Clay and Harold’s possessions accumulated over the course of their 20 years together or making any effort to determine which items belonged to whom, the county took everything Harold and Clay owned and auctioned off all of their belongings. Adding further insult to grave injury, the county removed Clay from his home and confined him to a nursing home against his will. The county workers then terminated Clay and Harold's lease and surrendered the home they had shared for many years to the landlord.

Three months after he was hospitalized, Harold died in the nursing home. Because of the county’s actions, Clay missed the final months he should have had with his partner of 20 years. Compounding this tragedy, Clay has literally nothing left of the home he had shared with Harold or the life he was living up until the day that Harold fell, because he has been unable to recover any of his property.

Clay is now suing the county, the auction company, and the nursing home.

I hope he gets every red cent from all three parties involved.

If that story is an accurate representation of the facts then the county has acted in an inhuman manner.

It will be interesting to see whether, despite the outrage, anyone cares enough to follow the story and post follow-ups.
 
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Elderly Gay Couple Forcibly Separated, Abused, Robbed By County Officials in California | Slog | The Stranger, Seattle's Only Newspaper

Clay and his partner of 20 years, Harold, lived in California. Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place—wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other. Harold was 88 years old and in frail medical condition, but still living at home with Clay, 77, who was in good health.

One evening, Harold fell down the front steps of their home and was taken to the hospital. Based on their medical directives alone, Clay should have been consulted in Harold’s care from the first moment. Tragically, county and health care workers instead refused to allow Clay to see Harold in the hospital. The county then ultimately went one step further by isolating the couple from each other, placing the men in separate nursing homes. Ignoring Clay’s significant role in Harold’s life, the county continued to treat Harold like he had no family and went to court seeking the power to make financial decisions on his behalf. Outrageously, the county represented to the judge that Clay was merely Harold’s “roommate.” The court denied their efforts, but did grant the county limited access to one of Harold’s bank accounts to pay for his care.

What happened next is even more chilling: without authority, without determining the value of Clay and Harold’s possessions accumulated over the course of their 20 years together or making any effort to determine which items belonged to whom, the county took everything Harold and Clay owned and auctioned off all of their belongings. Adding further insult to grave injury, the county removed Clay from his home and confined him to a nursing home against his will. The county workers then terminated Clay and Harold's lease and surrendered the home they had shared for many years to the landlord.

Three months after he was hospitalized, Harold died in the nursing home. Because of the county’s actions, Clay missed the final months he should have had with his partner of 20 years. Compounding this tragedy, Clay has literally nothing left of the home he had shared with Harold or the life he was living up until the day that Harold fell, because he has been unable to recover any of his property.

Clay is now suing the county, the auction company, and the nursing home.

I hope he gets every red cent from all three parties involved.
what i find strange is....they dont mention WHERE in Ca. this happened....i listen and check out the news everyday and have not come across this story....just sayin....:eusa_eh:
 

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ya do realize this happens to hetrosexual people daily too?

Ayep....and they've been pulling this shit on Americans WAY too long.

It's time to boot the arrogant government workers all the way to the curb.

We, The People give away WAY too many of our rights to these thugs.

I was with you all the way right until here.

This has nothing to do with rights anybody "gave" government, at any level. They had no right to do any of this. It's a lack of competence, thought or basic humanity of the part of the individual people who lie, steal, violate court orders and ignore the real needs of real human beings because it's easier for them to do it that way that's the problem. It's disgusting, I hope anyone involved in this gets nailed for every penny and more, but don't make it something it's not.
 

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A pair of queers, hardly a Couple.

Irrespective of your views on homosexuality, the county appears to have overstepped their authority quite dramatically, unless there is more to the story than has been made available via the linked article.
 

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Elderly Gay Couple Forcibly Separated, Abused, Robbed By County Officials in California | Slog | The Stranger, Seattle's Only Newspaper

Clay and his partner of 20 years, Harold, lived in California. Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place—wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other. Harold was 88 years old and in frail medical condition, but still living at home with Clay, 77, who was in good health.

One evening, Harold fell down the front steps of their home and was taken to the hospital. Based on their medical directives alone, Clay should have been consulted in Harold’s care from the first moment. Tragically, county and health care workers instead refused to allow Clay to see Harold in the hospital. The county then ultimately went one step further by isolating the couple from each other, placing the men in separate nursing homes. Ignoring Clay’s significant role in Harold’s life, the county continued to treat Harold like he had no family and went to court seeking the power to make financial decisions on his behalf. Outrageously, the county represented to the judge that Clay was merely Harold’s “roommate.” The court denied their efforts, but did grant the county limited access to one of Harold’s bank accounts to pay for his care.





Clay is now suing the county, the auction company, and the nursing home.

I hope he gets every red cent from all three parties involved.
what i find strange is....they dont mention WHERE in Ca. this happened....i listen and check out the news everyday and have not come across this story....just sayin....:eusa_eh:

Click on the link provided in the story...it's Sonoma County...draw your own conclusions folks. :eusa_whistle:
 

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I wonder if there was any relationship between the defendants in the suit? Or any money changing hands, between the nursing home or auctioneer (or both) and the County workers involved, that is. County workers aren't exactly paid top dollar, and it wouldn't be the first time. Had several cases of County workers on the take near here recently, in fact - it started in the courts with judges taking kickbacks for placing juveniles in certain privately owned and operated residential facilities (whether they deserved detention or not) and spread through the whole system from there. Another County official was removed and indicted just a few days ago. Ain't corruption grand? *sigh*
 

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I wonder if there was any relationship between the defendants in the suit? Or any money changing hands, between the nursing home or auctioneer (or both) and the County workers involved, that is. County workers aren't exactly paid top dollar, and it wouldn't be the first time. Had several cases of County workers on the take near here recently, in fact - it started in the courts with judges taking kickbacks for placing juveniles in certain privately owned and operated residential facilities (whether they deserved detention or not) and spread through the whole system from there. Another County official was removed and indicted just a few days ago. Ain't corruption grand? *sigh*

Yeah, we've got that going on here too (this is a series focused on corruption, abuse of power and neglect in GA's Juvenile Courts and Foster Care system):

Foster care fraught with private abuses, public excuses | ajc.com

Foster children experiencing ‘high' rate of abuse and neglect | ajc.com

Riot at Downing Clark mirrors foster care morass | ajc.com

Of course, this goes on all over the country and can be directly traced to Bill Clintons 1997 Legislation that PAYS GOOD MONEY to take kids out of their families and homes (whether or not there are serious problems) and pays EVEN MORE GOOD MONEY in bonuses to people who foster/warehouse children, and yet MORE GOOD MONEY if they adopt these kids IN A HURRY.

Can't find the link this legislation, but I used to have it. I'll search again for it and post it. I do remember it was signed into law by Clinton in 1997. It was a law that had all the best of intentions, but is BAD LAW.

VERY BAD LAW that has made a huge and highly profitable industry out of CPS and foster care. I was part of a parental rights group that screamed long and loud about this, warning what the consequences were going to be because of this law. Nobody listened, and those who did called crazy, paranoid, delusional, etc.

So....now....13 years later, we have a whole generation of children who have been stolen from their original families by the government powers that be, abandoned by the said government and CPS agencies that were charged with "saving" them--and left abused, neglected and often times, mentally ill and worse off than they were before they were ever removed from their families.

Way to go. :rolleyes:
 

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