http://www.nomarriage.com/nosense.html Traditional marriage balances different privileges and obligations for men and women. Modern woman wants all the benefits of "equality" without any of the responsibilities. Traditional Western culture balanced special privileges for women with special obligations, and the same for men. Equality states that no one get special privileges, and that responsibilities and rights should be equally shared. Either system is balanced and fair. The problem with modern Western culture is that many women want only the positives from both systems: They want special privileges from the traditional system (men paying, being "gentlemen" by using special deferential manners and language to women, being the main breadwinner, etc) but not the old-fashioned obligations (being modest and ladylike, being a housewife, etc).