Why marriage no longer makes sense

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    actsnoblemartin I love Andrea & April

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    http://www.nomarriage.com/nosense.html

    Traditional marriage balances different privileges and obligations for men and women. Modern woman wants all the benefits of "equality" without any of the responsibilities.

    Traditional Western culture balanced special privileges for women with special obligations, and the same for men.

    Equality states that no one get special privileges, and that responsibilities and rights should be equally shared.

    Either system is balanced and fair. The problem with modern Western culture is that many women want only the positives from both systems:

    They want special privileges from the traditional system (men paying, being "gentlemen" by using special deferential manners and language to women, being the main breadwinner, etc) but not the old-fashioned obligations (being modest and ladylike, being a housewife, etc).
     
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    Children deserve two parents. Period.
     
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    Neser Boha upgrade your gray matter

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    :wtf:
     
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    I think this Jewish poster is arguing in favor of extreme Muslim perspective.
     
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    actsnoblemartin I love Andrea & April

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    I dont disagree with you there, but I dont believe men is financially, spiritually, or emotionally advantageous for a man to get married under todays climate.


     
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    actsnoblemartin I love Andrea & April

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    you going to back up your assertion, or just spies lies and vitriol

    My being a jew has nothing to do with this, neither does my race. But you brought up my religious faith for some reason. apparently any view made by anybody is because they are jewish christian or muslim

    second, how is what im saying extreme? and since when do islam say dont get married?


     
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    Bulcrap......I remember a discussion with the boys in college. ALL of them wanted their future wives to work AND take care of the children AND take care of the house. I knew even then it couldn't be done. Marriage is a partnership and someone needs to take care of the kids, I don't care whom. Both are responsible for making sure the family survives. BOTH are equally as responsible.

    I've been married 27 years. My parents were married for more than 50, with 4 years off for bad behavior. Everyone of my surviving siblings is still married to their first spouse. Everyone of my nieces and nephew that married are still married to their SAME spouse. Just because you are too lazy to make a marriage work doesn't mean it's not practical. It takes two to have children and it takes two to raise them. A family unit is much stronger than any individual...I don't care who you are.
     
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    what a silly premise.

    balanced and fair? for centuries women were the property of the men they married and were traded for family power, position and wealth.

    balanced and fair?

    pffftt....

    and every woman i know works her butt off...
     
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    Dude, if you don't see that you are looking to send women back to the 17th century, can't help you. You are arguing that men should control. That puts you on same page as Osama, not anyone with a foot into the 20th C, not too mention 21st.
     
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    as a married man with two children....i once vowed never to get married or have children....

    you couldn't be more wrong.....about everything.....
     

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