'Why is it taking you so long to die?' Video of verbal abuse shocks family of long-term care residen

[deannalw]

Anyone that thinks their loved one is better off in some home than at the home of a loved one is either lying to themselves or misinformed.
Your loved one is absolutely not getting 24/7 care, nor are they protected from much of anything. The best of them are not a fit place to put your loved one.

People fall all the time in nursing homes. Sometimes a fall leads to death in the elderly. Accidents happen. Indifference happens. Abuse happens. Sexual abuse happens.Both by staff and patient on patient abuse. Bullying happens. Med mistakes happen. Loneliness and hurt hearts happen.

Even in well run facilities all this and more happens. Why would you wish to take the chance even one of these would happen to your loved one?

When we had a house full of kids we changed things to permit my staying at home till the youngest were in school. It was very challenging, but it's what we felt was best.
We did the same when mom needed to live with us the last eight years of her life. It took sacrifing a lot of things, but we lived through it and we get to live life without that particular regret.

 

[Vastator]

Anyone that thinks their loved one is better off in some home than at the home of a loved one is either lying to themselves or misinformed.
Your loved one is absolutely not getting 24/7 care, nor are they protected from much of anything. The best of them are not a fit place to put your loved one.

People fall all the time in nursing homes. Sometimes a fall leads to death in the elderly. Accidents happen. Indifference happens. Abuse happens. Sexual abuse happens.Both by staff and patient on patient abuse. Bullying happens. Med mistakes happen. Loneliness and hurt hearts happen.

Even in well run facilities all this and more happens. Why would you wish to take the chance even one of these would happen to your loved one?

When we had a house full of kids we changed things to permit my staying at home till the youngest were in school. It was very challenging, but it's what we felt was best.
We did the same when mom needed to live with us the last eight years of her life. It took sacrifing a lot of things, but we lived through it and we get to live life without that particular regret.

Ive already had the talk with my kids. That I'd prefer a shorter life, ending in the presence of my loved ones; than a prolonged slow death coming to me in the presence of strangers.

 

[Eaglewings]

I'm going to let Americans in on a little secret, if you don't know already from my constant reminders on here; Canada is not the nice little "just like us" country to the North.

We are a nation of primarily Atheists, that promotes warped socialism and government elitism and who bows for the Queen but not to pray. Healthcare and the treatment of the most vulnerable in this country reflects this attitude, it's in our cowardly history as a nation. Just recently a nurse in Ontario poisoned and killed 7 or 8 elderly people. She was not remorseful and there had been signs something was amiss. Par for the course in Canada.

In this incident, there was no name released of the three people who made vile comments to the elderly who could hear but couldn't respond or tell others. Why is this? Friends and family of some important government workers perhaps (OPP, RCMP, politicians)? These workers can now find work elsewhere without hassle. Americans have no idea how disgusting and warped this country is, without question. Abusing the most vulnerable in some sadistic manner and no publication of their identities?

This is one of many examples of how our system works, from the cradle to the grave. Don't shed a tear for us when NAFTA is either ripped up or negotiated heavily in Americas favour. The world needs LESS Canadian elitism, and more individual liberty and God given Rights. Certainly American workers and your system would be better off with that buffer between our two nations. It's very sad but true. Nothing illustrates this lack of concern for our citizens than our uncaring healthcare system.

‘Why is it taking you so long to die?’ Video of verbal abuse shocks family of long-term care resident

I did some work for home health and some residential homes when I was young.. I was shocked to see what happens ..

Just about everything valuable was stolen from the people...

Old dying people left in the same position for days getting huge bed sores..

Major verbal , physical abuse by some employees

Just awful...

A wireless camera wouldn't be a bad idea for family members to put in...Good for this woman for watching her moms back.

Some people are too sick to be taken care of at home..

 

[deannalw]

You do what it I takes.

Like what? Quit your job? You idiot. Get lost.

Thoughtful reply there, shortbus.

Yes. If that's what it takes, you quit your job. Hopefully, there is another solution, but if you have to you have to.

You are truly a moron.

Got it.

I'm a moron for disagreeing with you about flinging my parent into a nursing home.

You are a great human being darling.

My mom took care of me for 18 years and was there for me thereafter and I don't believe I'm a moron for taking care of her in her time of greatest need.

Guilt making you hostile?

No, idiots who don't have any clue as to what they are talking about make me hostile and people who are worthless fucktards like yourself.

Again you show rudeness, arrogance and ignorance.

I know exactly what I'm talking about. I worked several different positions like medical billing, purchasing agent and even housekeeping/laundry supervisor when he died and the admin couldn't find an immediate replacement for him. I have years of experience in more than one nursing home. I"he been on numerous committees, including some that reported directly to state.

I saw firsthand the effects of chronic shorthandedness and indifference or even cruelty from some staff. I've seen the effects of being dumped by loved ones. Listened to them plead with family to let them come home forever or just a weekend. And be refused. I've been a shoulder for so many that were hurt and confused about no one coming to see them. I've witnessed the humiliation of the elderly plopped into a shower chair and covered with just a shower blanket and whizzed down the hall to a shower given whether they liked it or not. Being naked and helpless with NO dignity as some wet behind the ears CNA aims the shower head at their body. One that may or may not have ever been seen naked by anyone but their spouse before.

I"he seen things that with ll be with me always.

So who here is ignorant?