Why is Christmas so depressing?

[lizzie]

I love Christmas, but I think that since it's a family-oriented time, as a general rule, that we focus on the losses and changes that have happened as a natural result of the rolling forward of time.

I also think that people tend to get more depressed due to the seasonal changes and lessening of sunlight- it just happens to coincide timewise, so we blame it on Christmas when it's really just normal cycles.

Wishing you and yours the best of times possible.
The end of the year is a sort of re-gearing time. We evaluate the past year, and start making resolutions for the next. Life is just a series of time frames. Holidays set the years of our lives into some sort of ordered existence and help us make some kind of order out of life. It's chaotic enough as it is.

 

[Mr Natural]

I find it more annoying than depressing although I like the music and the memories. For me, it's almost overtaking Halloween as the most annoying holiday of the year.

I think it's that Black Friday thing pushed me over the top more than anything else. I find that whole concept really repulsive.

 

[Truthmatters]

So, I was thinking, maybe this year it wouldn't be so bad, heck there was that feel good thread which lasted for all of 3 posts before it turned into trash....

Why is there so much hate? Why can't people just be happy? If someone does something good, why can't you just accept it and be happy or move on if you don't care for it, why do you have to turn it into hell for everyone else?

I spend most of Saturnday in tears...stupid commercials. A bride was getting ready for her wedding and her little brother showed up with her flowers. Made me think of my little brother when my big sister got married and how excited he was when he talked about her coming home. He actually thought she was going to come back and live with us after her honeymoon. He passed several years ago and I miss him so much.

My parents are gone, several of my friends are gone. Aunts and Uncles...my cousin refuses to return my phone calls.

My youngest is having a hard time adjusting to his living situation and after talking to a dozen different specialists it's been decided that he can come home to spend Christmas eve and we'll take him back Christmas night. At least he'll be here and I'll be happy about that.

Why is Christmas so depressing? And why is there so much hate? How can anyone take something good like someone paying someone else's layaway and turn it into a "fuck everyone" thread?

I know so many of people out of work this year, and there are so many others who think they deserve nothing, not even a job...Hatred seems to be in this year, on all sides. Why?

Abraham Lincoln once said "People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

I had made up my mind to be happy, until I let CG ruin it for me. And yes, I let her because no one can make you feel bad unless you let them.

So, I think my new years resolution is to avoid every thread on this board with the possible exception of the Coffee Shop. I need more positive influences in my life and I think so many here have lost their way and are taking the rest of us down with them. I'm not going down any further, I make my stand here.

Have a Merry Christmas everybody and I truly wish you all well for the New Year. Here's hoping next year is better than the last and that eventually the left and the right will both see how stupid they are being and meet somewhere in the middle.

God Bless everyone, sorry for venting.

Hey my friend, people have less hate in their heart than you think.

People argue when times are tuff. I dont hate the people I argue with here. I merely try to get through to them in any way I can that involves the truth. People like CG are not bad people they are just badly informed people. Some can not take privledge and understand it.

I hope your son gets well but if he doesnt he has a family that loves him during his lifes journey. Life can be so bitter sweet. When you have a quiet moment this season think of me patting you on the back and telling you to smile and refill your heart with love. You are a great person from what I can tell. You care about people in a genuine way. Your son is a very lucky guy to have such a parent who cares. Remember he didnt chose his journey either and its hard for him too. Love is the only thing that fills the spaces inbetween what we want and what the real world gives us. Refill that love my friend. Fill it flowing all the way from my southern Cali home and flying through space until it finds your weary heart. It will swirl arround your son no matter how deep his trials get. I hope for you a heart filled with love and I will be doing my best from my modest spot on this spinning ball to help it happen.

Merry Christmas my friend from a person who cares about you and your family.

Listen to Lincoln he was a smart man.

I hope Ive helped you make up your mind.

Some times we all need some help to deside to be happy.

 

[Truthmatters]

It's kind of hard for me to be upbeat around Christmas. Both my mother and her mother passed away on Christmas Eve, 15 years apart.

That must be some heavy weight on your heart at this time of year.

 

[Toro]

I generally enjoy the Christmas holidays. However, this year, my mother-in-law has had a serious stroke. My wife went up to Canada last Wednesday to bring her down for Christmas. She had a stroke on Friday. She's been in the neurological ward ever since. They fly her and my wife out tomorrow back to Canada.

 

[LAfrique]

Christmas is only depressing to those who do not know and/or understand the meaning of Christmas. You see, Christmas is the celebration of the birth of the answers to all of your problems, and thus should never be a day of sadness. Here is a little reminder of what Christmas is all about - Pickup your Tidings of Great Joy ecard at Yahoo! Greetings

 

[andernorm]

Christmas is one of the best and the nice festival, it is the festival on which we decorate our house and prepare for the party. All these things sometime make a person in depression. But it is to enjoyable also.

 

[Iridescence]

Many people find the season depressing because of the weather... others find it depressing because they are so 'influenced' by the moon's phases, which this year was a new moon on the 24th. I cannot say it doesn't matter, as those things have come to obviously matter even if they be things that have been manipulated to matter.

BITCHY people force me into depression at times. It seems there is no reaching some. I am amazed at how many walk around just *hating* everything, especially themselves. What do you do with that? I stay home and keep my mouth shut, for the most part. People generally mean too much to me for me to return most of what I see being exchanged. Holiday shopping and customer service would likely provoke cringing and/or anger from even an experienced Representative.

A messy yard and unkept house makes me depressed. Piled up laundry and dishes... Trash that is not corrected divided and kept neat. Out of date, out of time decorations and abused treasures make me depressed. OMGorsh... the more I go on... the more tedious I realize a healthy state of mind could potentially be!

*hearts*

 

[editec]

The holidays can be depressing because people impose EXPECTATIONS upon themselves and the holiday that are often impossible for reality to provide for them.

I don't mean to get all ZEN on you but WANT is the root of all unhappiness.

 

[RetiredGySgt]

So, I was thinking, maybe this year it wouldn't be so bad, heck there was that feel good thread which lasted for all of 3 posts before it turned into trash....

Why is there so much hate? Why can't people just be happy? If someone does something good, why can't you just accept it and be happy or move on if you don't care for it, why do you have to turn it into hell for everyone else?

I spend most of Saturnday in tears...stupid commercials. A bride was getting ready for her wedding and her little brother showed up with her flowers. Made me think of my little brother when my big sister got married and how excited he was when he talked about her coming home. He actually thought she was going to come back and live with us after her honeymoon. He passed several years ago and I miss him so much.

My parents are gone, several of my friends are gone. Aunts and Uncles...my cousin refuses to return my phone calls.

My youngest is having a hard time adjusting to his living situation and after talking to a dozen different specialists it's been decided that he can come home to spend Christmas eve and we'll take him back Christmas night. At least he'll be here and I'll be happy about that.

Why is Christmas so depressing? And why is there so much hate? How can anyone take something good like someone paying someone else's layaway and turn it into a "fuck everyone" thread?

I know so many of people out of work this year, and there are so many others who think they deserve nothing, not even a job...Hatred seems to be in this year, on all sides. Why?

Abraham Lincoln once said "People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

I had made up my mind to be happy, until I let CG ruin it for me. And yes, I let her because no one can make you feel bad unless you let them.

So, I think my new years resolution is to avoid every thread on this board with the possible exception of the Coffee Shop. I need more positive influences in my life and I think so many here have lost their way and are taking the rest of us down with them. I'm not going down any further, I make my stand here.

Have a Merry Christmas everybody and I truly wish you all well for the New Year. Here's hoping next year is better than the last and that eventually the left and the right will both see how stupid they are being and meet somewhere in the middle.

God Bless everyone, sorry for venting.

From November to February are bad times for me. Part of it is that everyone seems to be having a good time and I just don't like life. The other part is I had my original break down in early December.

 

[uscitizen]

All of this depression about Christmas is due to the Christians taking it over. If it were still just a pagan holiday this issue would not exist.
Too much of Christianity depends on guilt.

We WILL take back our holiday from those thievin Christians.

 

[editec]

All of this depression about Christmas is due to the Christians taking it over. If it were still just a pagan holiday this issue would not exist.
Too much of Christianity depends on guilt.

We WILL take back our holiday from those thievin Christians.

What a steaming load of horse hockey.

Even by the standards of militant atheism that POV is an embarrassment.

 

[uscitizen]

All of this depression about Christmas is due to the Christians taking it over. If it were still just a pagan holiday this issue would not exist.
Too much of Christianity depends on guilt.

We WILL take back our holiday from those thievin Christians.

What a steaming load of horse hockey.

Even by the standards of militant atheism that POV is an embarrassment.

You clearly do not understand the history of the midwinter festival.

I was an adult before I realized my christian mother was a travel agent. Always booking guilt trips for me.