Why is Christmas so depressing?

Againsheila

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So, I was thinking, maybe this year it wouldn't be so bad, heck there was that feel good thread which lasted for all of 3 posts before it turned into trash....

Why is there so much hate? Why can't people just be happy? If someone does something good, why can't you just accept it and be happy or move on if you don't care for it, why do you have to turn it into hell for everyone else?

I spend most of Saturnday in tears...stupid commercials. A bride was getting ready for her wedding and her little brother showed up with her flowers. Made me think of my little brother when my big sister got married and how excited he was when he talked about her coming home. He actually thought she was going to come back and live with us after her honeymoon. He passed several years ago and I miss him so much.

My parents are gone, several of my friends are gone. Aunts and Uncles...my cousin refuses to return my phone calls.

My youngest is having a hard time adjusting to his living situation and after talking to a dozen different specialists it's been decided that he can come home to spend Christmas eve and we'll take him back Christmas night. At least he'll be here and I'll be happy about that.

Why is Christmas so depressing? And why is there so much hate? How can anyone take something good like someone paying someone else's layaway and turn it into a "fuck everyone" thread?

I know so many of people out of work this year, and there are so many others who think they deserve nothing, not even a job...Hatred seems to be in this year, on all sides. Why?

Abraham Lincoln once said "People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

I had made up my mind to be happy, until I let CG ruin it for me. And yes, I let her because no one can make you feel bad unless you let them.

So, I think my new years resolution is to avoid every thread on this board with the possible exception of the Coffee Shop. I need more positive influences in my life and I think so many here have lost their way and are taking the rest of us down with them. I'm not going down any further, I make my stand here.

Have a Merry Christmas everybody and I truly wish you all well for the New Year. Here's hoping next year is better than the last and that eventually the left and the right will both see how stupid they are being and meet somewhere in the middle.

God Bless everyone, sorry for venting.
 
Vent away, Kiddo. Sorry to hear you're blue, but you're absolutely correct - only one attitude do any of us have control over, make it count for the circumstances.


Before deciding..... ask yourself, "Is anyone really going to care in 100 years?"
 
I agree. Most threads degrade to name calling after a page or two, with the exception of the "What Are You Listening To Now? and the "Gold and Silver" threads!

By the way, Merry Christmas everyone! :D
 
I can empathize. Half the family is dead, and the other half is pissed off at each other.

Now that I have kids I am realizing that the holidays are about 90% for them, not us.
 
It's kind of hard for me to be upbeat around Christmas. Both my mother and her mother passed away on Christmas Eve, 15 years apart.

My birthday is Christmas eve...I will be sending prayers your way. A lot of deaths happen around this time of year and those that don't we think about this time of year...
 
christmas is depressing becasue there is an expectation to be happier.... then normal.

Try out the original thread that was truly about the subject at hand and don't let liesmatters threads get you down.


http://www.usmessageboard.com/general/197956-has-this-happened-in-your-area-awesome.html



What is it that makes you happy? But..vent away.

TM didn't bug me at all, it was California Girl and her "fuck everything" that got me down. It doesn't help that so many of you are all over TM instead of CG for what she did in that thread. It's like your hatred for TM had colored your thinking entirely.
 
christmas is depressing becasue there is an expectation to be happier.... then normal.

Try out the original thread that was truly about the subject at hand and don't let liesmatters threads get you down.


http://www.usmessageboard.com/general/197956-has-this-happened-in-your-area-awesome.html



What is it that makes you happy? But..vent away.

TM didn't bug me at all, it was California Girl and her "fuck everything" that got me down. It doesn't help that so many of you are all over TM instead of CG for what she did in that thread. It's like your hatred for TM had colored your thinking entirely.


Hun, my first post in that thread was #231...two full day after it started. It was off the rails by post #2 by liesmatters very own hand. I dont hate liesmatters, i pity her.


So what do you have planed for your birthday?
 
Do something nice for somebody. Send a donation to a good charity if you can afford it. Repeat the cycle as often as possible.

Yeah, there's a lot of anger and resentment, even hatred out there. But there's also a lot of good people out there too, maybe even some on this very board. Maybe. Focus on them and let the others go, no point in exercising yourself in vain.

Hey, did you read my thread in Healthcare about a breakthrough in cancer detection? Great stuff, made my day.
 
How am I celebrating my birthday? Well after I pick up Andrew at his apartment and my father in law at the airport, I'll be roasting a real expensive prime rib with baked potatoes and brocolli with cheese sauce, and if I feel up to it, I'll even bake myself a cake.

I tried going out for dinner on my birthday once, it was a horrible experience and will never happen again. The waitresses and cooks should have been fired. I don't care how busy it is, there's no excuse for over cooking a steak, and then bringing it to the table cold and totally ignoring the customers as they are trying to flag you down just to warm up their meal. Heck, my husband even passed a tip so they would sing "Happy Birthday", never happened.

At least I know this years birthday dinner will be cooked right, I'm doing it myself.
 
it is always depressing when people push their agenda on ya......and good gosh all this external happiness at christmas is just too much sometimes.....but shelia we all have problems or issues...and they just seem to spill out more this time of year....my father died on dec 21...the winter solstice.....we buried him on 12/23rd i could not bear having a funeral christmas eve....

so your cousins dont return your calls...fuck em.....hell my mother's entire family hates my guts.....i can live with it...o wait wait....sorry that was not upbeat

but seriously....vent away.....we all do at one time or another....o wait wait except for hotysir.....


merry christmas to you and yours....i hope this upcoming year brings peace and happiness to you and your family.....and good luck getting past the holidays......

happy birthday too
 
My ex-husband is taking my son to Atlanta for Christmas with his new wife's family. First time he'll be away from me in his life. My fiance is headed to seattle to be with his parents for a week (I don't begrudge this, I have him most of the other 51 weeks).

It will be my daughter and I, and my parents, and my brother, his wife, and my nephew (my neice is going to her mom's house in Utah).

I'm kind of sad, on one level. But, on another level, I'm determined to get as much joy out of my life as I possibly can.

I realized after my divorce that "happily ever after" doesn't always happen. Happily ever after is today. It's a choice to be happy, to be content with the circumstances of your life (the good and the bad), to change the things you can, and to accept the things you can't.

I'm making a prime rib on Saturday for Christmas eve, too. I wish you a happy birthday, Sheila, and may we all find joy, wherever it may be found, this holiday season.
 
How am I celebrating my birthday? Well after I pick up Andrew at his apartment and my father in law at the airport, I'll be roasting a real expensive prime rib with baked potatoes and brocolli with cheese sauce, and if I feel up to it, I'll even bake myself a cake.

I tried going out for dinner on my birthday once, it was a horrible experience and will never happen again. The waitresses and cooks should have been fired. I don't care how busy it is, there's no excuse for over cooking a steak, and then bringing it to the table cold and totally ignoring the customers as they are trying to flag you down just to warm up their meal. Heck, my husband even passed a tip so they would sing "Happy Birthday", never happened.

At least I know this years birthday dinner will be cooked right, I'm doing it myself.


Yay.... it sounds great! How about spoiling yourself and getting a cake?
 

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