Why Do We Stop Looking Forward to Sex?

[jchima]

When we fall in love, we can't wait to get in bed with our man, right? Why does that drop off?
I went to my psych teacher who helped with my new ideas about people and sex. I told her that I wanted to interview women about how their men introduce sex, and then write a paper. I wondered why women seemed to adore sex early on in a relationship, and then find themselves less interested as time went on. People assume that it is something about women and sex, but I suspected it had to do with the relationship, too. I mean, really, sex feels good. So why would someone lose interest? My teacher agreed to give me independent study credit for it.

Source: Why Do We Stop Looking Forward to Sex - eReporter

 

[Delta4Embassy]

When you've had a lot and the mystery is dispelled, and you realize you can do it for yourself even better.

 

[DGS49]

From the male side, the biggest revelation one might have is that the sex drive is a appetite - just like the appetite for food.

If you don't have enough of it, it's all you can think about, and during the teen years, when you testosterone levels are highest, it is a constant. So during courtship, much of the emotional energy is the drive to copulate.

Once you get married, you can copulate whenever you want (basically), and you slowly discover that when that "appetite" is satisfied you have lost that constant motivation that existed before marriage (or co-habitation).

Then nature takes its toll and the testosterone levels drop, and you find that you don't actually need to have sex every possible day (sometimes more than once). This dropping of hormone levels continues until you die. At age 50, for most men, once or twice a week is suffient to satisfy the appetite for sex, and it goes down further from there. Thank the internet gods for internet porn, and the pharma industry for Viagra. Otherwise, some men might never initiate sex.

On the other side the equation, the natural male drive is to copulate with a woman who is fertile. As you get older your wife - hate to say it - becomes less and less sexually attractive. It's ironic that the Viagra ads features women who are very sexy, even if a little older than a teenager. Let's face it; if most 60 year old men could bed women who looked like THAT, they wouldn't need Viagra.

And there you have it. Even if the emotional attachment remains as you get older, a lot of older couples just mutually lose interest.

 

[anotherlife]

How about cougars? From that, it seems that for women, sex drive is a consequence of general hype searching. More women want to be settled in relationships than men do. But when that happens, the hype goes away, and the woman loses her sex drive, until she can get into the interest of another man.

 

[Mindful]

Maybe you don't fancy the man anymore. It's as simple as that.

 

[Mindful]

When you've had a lot and the mystery is dispelled, and you realize you can do it for yourself even better.

Love's young dream, aren't you?