fuzzykitten99
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Please help me put another perspective into this, unless I am looking at it how I should be...
ok, here goes...
background: Tim and I are still friends with Tony & Renee, a guy and his wife that he worked with before changing companies back in Nov. They have a little girl about 2 months younger than Nathan, so they often get to play together, which is great. Plus Tony & Renee are lots of fun to hang with.
My mom is needing to sell her house, and likely has to move to an apartment, in which she needs to find a new home for her beautiful Siberian Husky, Buster. Tim and I would gladly take him, but because of the new baby, and the fact that Buster is a high-maintenence dog, it just isn't good timing. Plus I have always wanted a dog, and Buster is already trained for a home with little kids.
We mentioned this issue to Tony while Tim was telling him about an opening at the company where he works. Tony is interested in Buster, and we have made plans tonite to go visit Buster and Tony wants to take him for the weekend to see how he fits in with their other dog before deciding. My mom agrees with the idea, and is willing to do this.
Since I know more about Buster than Tim, Tony talked to me directly last night, and in that conversation we talked about our jobs, and how my last job was similar to where he is now, as far as atmosphere and backstabbing that goes on, and how he wants to leave, etc.
He then proceeds to ask me if I can keep a secret, even from Tim, etc. I thought he was just being casual or general about it, not meaning one thing in particular. So I said it depended on what the secret was and the terms that the person told me, and whether or not the secret is something that really should not be a secret because of its effects/affects on someone or many people.
He told me that he just wants someone to confide in and that I seemed like a person who he feels comfortable enough to do so. When he said this, I was more flattered, but felt kind of awkward because even though I know him pretty well, I don't feel I know him THAT well. But ok, if he needs someone to confide in about something, I am willing to be there, but I also think that person should also be his wife. Then again, it may not be something he can truly talk to her about. But what could it be that he feels he could not go to his own wife about? Or even Tim, since he knows Tony better than I do?
He will be meeting us at our house tonight after work so I can take him over to my mom's a few blocks away. Tim may or may not go with, but I figured it would be a hassle to bring Nathan along in Tony's truck, because he may take Buster tonight instead of tomorrow, so Tim may stay home. Tony told me to remind him of last nights conversation so that he can tell me whatever it is.
I know I can keep a secret, and let him confide in me if needed, and I would never betray his trust, but I feel really odd about this, maybe because I don't know what he will say or do.
My biggest fear is that it would be something that would create that wierdness that is hard to overcome in a friendship.
ok, here goes...
background: Tim and I are still friends with Tony & Renee, a guy and his wife that he worked with before changing companies back in Nov. They have a little girl about 2 months younger than Nathan, so they often get to play together, which is great. Plus Tony & Renee are lots of fun to hang with.
My mom is needing to sell her house, and likely has to move to an apartment, in which she needs to find a new home for her beautiful Siberian Husky, Buster. Tim and I would gladly take him, but because of the new baby, and the fact that Buster is a high-maintenence dog, it just isn't good timing. Plus I have always wanted a dog, and Buster is already trained for a home with little kids.
We mentioned this issue to Tony while Tim was telling him about an opening at the company where he works. Tony is interested in Buster, and we have made plans tonite to go visit Buster and Tony wants to take him for the weekend to see how he fits in with their other dog before deciding. My mom agrees with the idea, and is willing to do this.
Since I know more about Buster than Tim, Tony talked to me directly last night, and in that conversation we talked about our jobs, and how my last job was similar to where he is now, as far as atmosphere and backstabbing that goes on, and how he wants to leave, etc.
He then proceeds to ask me if I can keep a secret, even from Tim, etc. I thought he was just being casual or general about it, not meaning one thing in particular. So I said it depended on what the secret was and the terms that the person told me, and whether or not the secret is something that really should not be a secret because of its effects/affects on someone or many people.
He told me that he just wants someone to confide in and that I seemed like a person who he feels comfortable enough to do so. When he said this, I was more flattered, but felt kind of awkward because even though I know him pretty well, I don't feel I know him THAT well. But ok, if he needs someone to confide in about something, I am willing to be there, but I also think that person should also be his wife. Then again, it may not be something he can truly talk to her about. But what could it be that he feels he could not go to his own wife about? Or even Tim, since he knows Tony better than I do?
He will be meeting us at our house tonight after work so I can take him over to my mom's a few blocks away. Tim may or may not go with, but I figured it would be a hassle to bring Nathan along in Tony's truck, because he may take Buster tonight instead of tomorrow, so Tim may stay home. Tony told me to remind him of last nights conversation so that he can tell me whatever it is.
I know I can keep a secret, and let him confide in me if needed, and I would never betray his trust, but I feel really odd about this, maybe because I don't know what he will say or do.
My biggest fear is that it would be something that would create that wierdness that is hard to overcome in a friendship.
