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  1. Againsheila
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    yes, I want to whine. This is the second Monday in a row that my son's caregiver didn't show up and I have to cancel my plans to give out lunches at the church. In fact, in the last 3 weeks, even though I'm suppose to have a caregiver every weekday, I've had one for no more than 4 days.....

    The company can't seem to get it's act together. I'm depressed to the point that I don't have nightmares when I sleep, I have mean dreams. Dreamed somebody told me she wished I'd die, so in my dream I just shut down and tried to do that every thing.

    It's not so much that I mind taking care of my own sun, it's that I feel trapped and want to get out...Heck I have things I have to do and I can't do them with my son along. So much for the dream of getting a job outside of the home....

    no thank you, no cheese with this whine....just wanted to whine.
     
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    Having kids often has that side effect.
     
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    Life can be tough and you seem like a tough lady. Just remember we can only take things as they come and one day at a time :)

    Hope you can smile soon.
     
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    Let me see if I understand this... You need somebody to watch your son so you can hand out meals at church? Wonder which is more important? Taking care of your son or taking care of somebody else? Sorry, I don't understand. Seems to me like watching your own son would have priority but that's just me.
     
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    My son is 22 years old and in diapers......it's more than just handing out lunches...it's getting away and talking to people who can talk back.

    Since the state pays for the hours, I should be getting them covered. I'm not getting the money when they don't show up, no one is....it's a waste. The only reason they even provided me with a caregiver in the first place is because I threatened to drop my son off at his ddd counselors office. He threatened to charge me with child abandonment and I pointed out that my son is over 18 and we never filled out the paperwork to be his legal guardians...I had a caregiver the following week. But so much has happened to that poor caregiver that I don't get the care for my son that I need and I'm dangerously close to a nervous breakdown. You try caring for a 22 year old that's still in diapers and refuses to wear them 24/7 and see how well you deal.
     
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    Apologies Sheila. I had forgotten about your special needs son.
    Most sincere apologies.

    Hang in there girl. Positive vibes sent your way.
     
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    I thought it may be something like that. Sounds like you could use a get away.
     
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    that is most unkind count...she is taking care of her son 24/7...do you have any idea what a burden that is? all she ask for is a break...and yet you needle her for going to church to help out.....gee i guess she should just buy some crack and stay at home with her son...and suck down a crack pipe....

    do you have any idea the toll it takes on a person to give up everything to care for a special needs child.....?? do you?

    i find your comment unkind and without any empathy...

    shelia i hope things improve for you




    count ....you should be ashamed....
     
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    No, I'm not ashamed. But I do understand the circumstances now. I do beg your pardon. Sorry I was such a louse. However, if you didn't have the special needs son, I would feel the way I stated. I can understand your need for a break. Good luck with it all.
     
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    YOu obviously have never had to take care of a specials needs child.
    I don't Sheila, but from what she has wrote on her, her whole life is taking care of her son. And if she wants a break to give out meals at church, or to just go somewhere for a break I am pretty sure she deserves it.
     

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