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"Not My Child" Syndrome. At one time or another, most children behave badly. But way too many parents, confronted by another parent or teacher about their child's behavior, get defensive and go into blind denial mode. Without proper discipline, kids develop a sense of entitlement and the dangerous realization that their bad behavior will go relatively unpunished.
Enabled by clueless parents, kids soon realize there are no moral boundaries. Bad behavior escalates. Yet no matter how many times these parents are confronted, they refuse to see reality. It probably pains them to think they've raised less-than-perfect children - but it's more painful to see the damage these disruptive kids do to the other kids they victimize.
The "Head in the Sand" parent. The other side of the coin from the ambitious parent: In my teaching career, what used to upset me most was that many of the bad parents didn't have high aspirations for their children.
Their kids would consistently come home with failing grades on report cards, tests and homework assignments - yet few of the parents would contact me to ask what could be done to help their children do better.
Read more: When schools have to be the parents | Philadelphia Daily News | 10/05/2010
"Not My Child" Syndrome. At one time or another, most children behave badly. But way too many parents, confronted by another parent or teacher about their child's behavior, get defensive and go into blind denial mode. Without proper discipline, kids develop a sense of entitlement and the dangerous realization that their bad behavior will go relatively unpunished.
Enabled by clueless parents, kids soon realize there are no moral boundaries. Bad behavior escalates. Yet no matter how many times these parents are confronted, they refuse to see reality. It probably pains them to think they've raised less-than-perfect children - but it's more painful to see the damage these disruptive kids do to the other kids they victimize.
The "Head in the Sand" parent. The other side of the coin from the ambitious parent: In my teaching career, what used to upset me most was that many of the bad parents didn't have high aspirations for their children.
Their kids would consistently come home with failing grades on report cards, tests and homework assignments - yet few of the parents would contact me to ask what could be done to help their children do better.
Read more: When schools have to be the parents | Philadelphia Daily News | 10/05/2010
There are a lot of ideas floating around about how to "fix" K-12 education. Most people agree that it does not take a village to raise a child, it takes a parent.
How should schools deal with neglectful or enabling parents? Can they?
Their kids would consistently come home with failing grades on report cards, tests and homework assignments - yet few of the parents would contact me to ask what could be done to help their children do better.
Read more: When schools have to be the parents | Philadelphia Daily News | 10/05/2010
There are a lot of ideas floating around about how to "fix" K-12 education. Most people agree that it does not take a village to raise a child, it takes a parent.
How should schools deal with neglectful or enabling parents? Can they?
Their kids would consistently come home with failing grades on report cards, tests and homework assignments - yet few of the parents would contact me to ask what could be done to help their children do better.
Read more: When schools have to be the parents | Philadelphia Daily News | 10/05/2010
There are a lot of ideas floating around about how to "fix" K-12 education. Most people agree that it does not take a village to raise a child, it takes a parent.
How should schools deal with neglectful or enabling parents? Can they?
No, but they can deal with neglectful teachers, like the one writing the OP.
Why would a teacher whose students "consistently come home with failing grades on report cards, tests and homework assignments" wait for the parent to call them?
There are a lot of ideas floating around about how to "fix" K-12 education. Most people agree that it does not take a village to raise a child, it takes a parent.
How should schools deal with neglectful or enabling parents? Can they?
No, but they can deal with neglectful teachers, like the one writing the OP.
Why would a teacher whose students "consistently come home with failing grades on report cards, tests and homework assignments" wait for the parent to call them?
Some parents are like Donkeys.... I'd imagine...
Are you saying..that if your child came home with straight "F,s" you wouldn't notice..?
No, but they can deal with neglectful teachers, like the one writing the OP.
Why would a teacher whose students "consistently come home with failing grades on report cards, tests and homework assignments" wait for the parent to call them?
Some parents are like Donkeys.... I'd imagine...
Are you saying..that if your child came home with straight "F,s" you wouldn't notice..?
heh...no I would notice.
But only because I'm ULTRA VIGILANT, to the point that I DEMAND that papers be sent home (although papers with "F's" have a high mortality rate getting from the school to the home).
To help avoid this, some schools post the grades on a secure online gradebook, so parents can check grades at any time. However, this does NOT, IMHO, let teachers off the hook from calling parents to let them know why and how little Muffy or Tyrone is failing the class.
Some parents are like Donkeys.... I'd imagine...
Are you saying..that if your child came home with straight "F,s" you wouldn't notice..?
heh...no I would notice.
But only because I'm ULTRA VIGILANT, to the point that I DEMAND that papers be sent home (although papers with "F's" have a high mortality rate getting from the school to the home).
To help avoid this, some schools post the grades on a secure online gradebook, so parents can check grades at any time. However, this does NOT, IMHO, let teachers off the hook from calling parents to let them know why and how little Muffy or Tyrone is failing the class.
I can accept that the teacher should give a call but Chanels asking...
How should schools deal with neglectful or enabling parents? Can they?
heh...no I would notice.
But only because I'm ULTRA VIGILANT, to the point that I DEMAND that papers be sent home (although papers with "F's" have a high mortality rate getting from the school to the home).
To help avoid this, some schools post the grades on a secure online gradebook, so parents can check grades at any time. However, this does NOT, IMHO, let teachers off the hook from calling parents to let them know why and how little Muffy or Tyrone is failing the class.
I can accept that the teacher should give a call but Chanels asking...
How should schools deal with neglectful or enabling parents? Can they?
Yes, they can bug the shit out of them by calling them every day to discuss Muffy or Tyrone.
No, but they can deal with neglectful teachers, like the one writing the OP.
Why would a teacher whose students "consistently come home with failing grades on report cards, tests and homework assignments" wait for the parent to call them?
Some parents are like Donkeys.... I'd imagine...
Are you saying..that if your child came home with straight "F,s" you wouldn't notice..?
heh...no I would notice.
But only because I'm ULTRA VIGILANT, to the point that I DEMAND that papers be sent home (although papers with "F's" have a high mortality rate getting from the school to the home).
To help avoid this, some schools post the grades on a secure online gradebook, so parents can check grades at any time. However, this does NOT, IMHO, let teachers off the hook from calling parents to let them know why and how little Muffy or Tyrone is failing the class.
Let's assume OP writer is a good teacher who has reached out to Muffy and Tyrone's parents. The call was unproductive and nothing more than excuses, sob stories or mud slinging toward the school. What then?
Approx 10 percent of the special ed parents show up for conferences or IEP meetings at our school. I'm interested in ideas (even crazy ones) to get the folks more involved. We even offer quite a nice spread of free desserts for conferences. No luck.
I can accept that the teacher should give a call but Chanels asking...
How should schools deal with neglectful or enabling parents? Can they?
Yes, they can bug the shit out of them by calling them every day to discuss Muffy or Tyrone.
Funny you should say that...my brother's school is trying such a policy and now the office is getting complaints that the teachers call TOO much.
Some parents are like Donkeys.... I'd imagine...
Are you saying..that if your child came home with straight "F,s" you wouldn't notice..?
heh...no I would notice.
But only because I'm ULTRA VIGILANT, to the point that I DEMAND that papers be sent home (although papers with "F's" have a high mortality rate getting from the school to the home).
To help avoid this, some schools post the grades on a secure online gradebook, so parents can check grades at any time. However, this does NOT, IMHO, let teachers off the hook from calling parents to let them know why and how little Muffy or Tyrone is failing the class.
Last year my youngest was in 7th grade and decided to emulate her friend, so she stopped doing homework and started failing tests. I had no idea as the previous year this kid was near honor roll. Because there had never been a reason to be concerned I was not one to constantly check grades on-line and it wasn't until the end of October that any teacher contacted me that she was failing four classes. I completely agree with the bolded above.
Oh yeah, the hammer came down big time on the kid. Did you know that they don't actually die if they get grounded off the computer for months on end?
"Not My Child" Syndrome. At one time or another, most children behave badly. But way too many parents, confronted by another parent or teacher about their child's behavior, get defensive and go into blind denial mode. Without proper discipline, kids develop a sense of entitlement and the dangerous realization that their bad behavior will go relatively unpunished.
Enabled by clueless parents, kids soon realize there are no moral boundaries. Bad behavior escalates. Yet no matter how many times these parents are confronted, they refuse to see reality. It probably pains them to think they've raised less-than-perfect children - but it's more painful to see the damage these disruptive kids do to the other kids they victimize.
The "Head in the Sand" parent. The other side of the coin from the ambitious parent: In my teaching career, what used to upset me most was that many of the bad parents didn't have high aspirations for their children.
Their kids would consistently come home with failing grades on report cards, tests and homework assignments - yet few of the parents would contact me to ask what could be done to help their children do better.
Read more: When schools have to be the parents | Philadelphia Daily News | 10/05/2010
There are a lot of ideas floating around about how to "fix" K-12 education. Most people agree that it does not take a village to raise a child, it takes a parent.
How should schools deal with neglectful or enabling parents? Can they?
Well.. I feel Lucky my kids are so great.. I blame my wife...
"Not My Child" Syndrome. At one time or another, most children behave badly. But way too many parents, confronted by another parent or teacher about their child's behavior, get defensive and go into blind denial mode. Without proper discipline, kids develop a sense of entitlement and the dangerous realization that their bad behavior will go relatively unpunished.
Enabled by clueless parents, kids soon realize there are no moral boundaries. Bad behavior escalates. Yet no matter how many times these parents are confronted, they refuse to see reality. It probably pains them to think they've raised less-than-perfect children - but it's more painful to see the damage these disruptive kids do to the other kids they victimize.
The "Head in the Sand" parent. The other side of the coin from the ambitious parent: In my teaching career, what used to upset me most was that many of the bad parents didn't have high aspirations for their children.
Their kids would consistently come home with failing grades on report cards, tests and homework assignments - yet few of the parents would contact me to ask what could be done to help their children do better.
Read more: When schools have to be the parents | Philadelphia Daily News | 10/05/2010
There are a lot of ideas floating around about how to "fix" K-12 education. Most people agree that it does not take a village to raise a child, it takes a parent.
How should schools deal with neglectful or enabling parents? Can they?
I think that the schools should take on the appeasing parents, (my kid isn't doing anything that some other kid...), the bullying parents, (my kid was standing up for himself by hitting or denigrating), and the victim parents, (my child was at the mercy of and didn't want to tattle, really I didn't want to tattle...).
Truth is, school is for teaching. Yes, socialization goes on at school, no denying that. On the other hand, schools cannot and should not be held responsible for what goes on out of class. I'm not speaking of lunch time, recess, and gym; those are within the rhelm of school. I'm speaking toward internet/facebook. That should be parent rhelm, and blocked by schools. Same with texting/calling.
