What would you do?

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    You find out an 11 year old girl has been sleeping in the same bed with her father for who knows how long. It's a king size bed. No mom in the house, but dad's sister lives there.

    Daughter has a mild form of autism.


    I turned into the counselor. She talked with dad about "boundaries" with the daughter. Soon, the girl will be starting puberty. She told him to get a double bed or have her sleep with the aunt.

    If things don't change she said she' going to report them to CPS.

    Thoughts?
     
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    i don't think there's a lot of choice...

    i agree with the counselor.
     
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    First off, I'd like to know if their living in a house or an apartment.

    If its a house, call CPS. If an apartment, I'd probably let it slide.


    Strange advice, I know, but thse are my thoughts off the top of my head.
     
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    It's a house.
     
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    I agree with you talking to the counselor and counselor talking to the dad. What did dad say?
     
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    You did the right thing. :cool: What did the father have to say?
     
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    Dad didn't think anything was wrong with it. She said he didn't get mad, I guess that's a good sign. But she will be starting puberty soon, she doesn't need to be sleeping with daddy. I guess they will make a home visit next week to see if anything has changed.
     
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    you did the right thing
     
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    Yes, it's good he didn't get defensive and it's probably an innocent progression over time that it hadn't occurred to him as becoming inappropriate..

    Or so you'd like to think...But no doubt it's good to make sure for the girl's sake that the arrangements should change.
     
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    You absolutely did the right thing. Even if dad was completely just thinking of her as his little girl with nothing even remotely untoward in his mind, the situation is still unhealthy for her.
     
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