Trash Talking

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  1. Nienna
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    My husband called up my best friend's husband. "Hey, tool," he greeted him. "Not much going on in your life, I suppose."

    :confused:

    How can something like this foster a friendship? My husband & my BF's husband have been friends nearly all their lives. I asked my friend, "What if I called you up and said, "Hey, ho. How's things in your sorry life?" Women just don't do this. At least, none of the women I know.

    So, guys... can someone explain to me the male practice of "trash talking"? Why do you do it? I know it's supposed to be funny, but doesn't it really hurt your feelings, underneath?
     
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    nope---not a bit---it's funny and shows that you can say anything to each other and still be buddies.
     
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    it's building a bond. It's normal and probably makes them feel closer. :)
     
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    Mom…It’s not uncommon for me or my best friend to end a call with, “I don’t want to talk to you anymore”. For someone overhearing that it must seem damn rude. For us it means…
    1. We have been talking soooo long we’ve covered everything, and it’s time to go
    2. I have stuff to do now
    3. In some cases, you’re pissing me off

    It’s understood between us, and no harm is done.
     
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    It's a guy thing. Take a look at that other thread about how we're 'wired' differently.
     
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    all you guys are tools for replying.

    :p:

    :salute:
     
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    Yo momma.
     
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    Woman pay each other meaningless compliments as forms of communication and bonding. They don't mean these compliments. they just want to make the other woman feel better.

    Conversely, guys rip on each other as a means of bonding. they don't mean these insults. They just want to make everyone laugh and feel comfortable. Occasional an insult might go to far but rarely does the insulted party let everyone know it.
     
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    This is like saying all men are *ssh*les. I'd start looking at the friends I hang out with.
     
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    My brother and I refer to each other as "prick." I call my best friend "shithead" and he refers to me as "fokker." It doesn't hurt feelings when it comes from someone you are friends with. It builds a bond in a way that women would never understand. Sometimes I come home to see my wife and her best friend sitting on the couch, crying their eyes out. Five minutes later, they are okay. I'll never understand this and would never want to. Your husbands friend is a tool. My brother is a prick. This is the male psyche, it's just how things are. :beer:
     

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