My husband called up my best friend's husband. "Hey, tool," he greeted him. "Not much going on in your life, I suppose." How can something like this foster a friendship? My husband & my BF's husband have been friends nearly all their lives. I asked my friend, "What if I called you up and said, "Hey, ho. How's things in your sorry life?" Women just don't do this. At least, none of the women I know. So, guys... can someone explain to me the male practice of "trash talking"? Why do you do it? I know it's supposed to be funny, but doesn't it really hurt your feelings, underneath?