Honestly, I want your no-holds barred opinions. I've had several bad relationships. I don't "trust" women. I have a great girlfriend (in Hong Kong), but she's far away and we only will see each other at varying points for the next few years. I hold a growing degree of faith in her, as my faith in myself seems to dwindle. You see, I have been "tempted" on several occasions as of late. I'm not the a very handsome guy, nor a great practitioner of conversation with the opposite sex about things that don't lie well in the friendship or business categories. However, three very different females have walked into my life in the past few weeks, and I feel weaker and less certain with every passing day in my ability to remain faithful as they each make clear their interest and (in one case) their desire. (going out to sea for nearly two months will help, but these same people will be around when I return) So, I don't think cheating is the right thing, but I fell my good judgement falling by the wayside the more I try to fight tempatation and the advances of the three. I feel guilty praying about it, because i'm ashamed of having considered cheating in the first place. So as I will not be asking my shipmates about this (the overwhelming answer was, is and shall remain "its not cheating until you're married") nor my friends in Japan (who have been encouraging me to "hook up"). What do you all think?