1. In child rearing, public schools, our civic 'religion,' the coin of the realm is "ecumenical niceness'... ...dont fight or argue, share toys, take turns, be nice . ...and never, ever be judgmental! 2. In "Coming Apart: The State of White America, 1960-2010," Charles Murray makes a very strong case for the idea that in the last half-century America has seen a huge change in cultural inequality in America. Not economic...cultural. a. The top 20% with college or graduate degrees, who hold jobs in knowledge-based occupations. b. The bottom 30% with at most a high school diploma and (if employed) working in blue collar or low wage service jobs. 3. He discusses four fundamental areas of culture: industriousness, honesty, marriage, and religiosity. Both groups saw declines in these areas, ... but the 'elites' adjusted, and were able to retreat to traditional values by the 1980's, while the lower class continued in precipitous cultural decline. One reason is that the 'elites' did nothing to point this out. They accept, and, superficially sign on to the vulgarity, foul language, and behaviors that were once called 'lower class.' No criticism of said behaviors: Ecumenical niceness: never, ever be judgmental. 4. From Saturday's NYTimes: a. For Women Under 30, Most Births Occur Outside Marriage http://www.nytimes.com/2012/02/18/us/for-women-under-30-most-births-occur-outside-marriage.html b. One group still largely resists the trend: college graduates, who overwhelmingly marry before having children. That is turning family structure into a new class divide, Ibid. 5. The upper class has children in a two parent marriage environment. But most ignore the out of wedlock births that doom so many children in the lower class. Charles Murray says to the 'elites:' Preach what you practice! Preach....what you practice.....be judgmental. Speak up!