I don't care about the force in any case. The role of government in a democracy is to represent the community's preferences, not any given individual (including myself).
And that simply comes around to a fundamental disagreement on the purpose of government. I DON'T think the role of government is, or should be, to "represent the community's preferences". It should be to protect our rights and freedom to live our lives according to our own preferences.
We need government to resolve situations where our preferences come into conflict, not to decide which preferences are "correct" and force them on all of us.