Sexless marriages thrust Japan to brink of demographic disaster

[dilloduck]

But what about the father-child bond? Does being in a non-sexual relationship with the child's mother, while being in a sexual relationship with another woman affect the feelings a father has toward his child? From a man's point of view?

I would think that it would affect it in the fact that it would confuse the child but many men have good relationships with their kids inspite of a poor relationship with their wives. I doubt that the child knows the details of his fathers' sexual activities but it's a whole different culture as some have stated.

 

[Nienna]

Anthropology 101 told me that it was mens' natural urge to sow as many wild oats wherever he could with the hopes that his efforts would ensure the survival of the species. Women on the other hand were to attract the strongest and best provider for their children so that she could ensure the safety and culturization of the offspring.

I have a different take on this, since I do not believe in the theory of evolution.

In Paradise, where mankind was originally created, there was no need for a man to protect or provide. There was no danger and no want. A man was free to use his energies on impressing his mate, thus fulfilling her need to feel special. She would in turn give him admiration, fulfilling his need to feel special. It was all ruined when they sinned and were cast out of Paradise.

My theory is that man's testosterone levels increased greatly, thereby increasing his competitiveness, necessary in order to provide for and protect the family unit. But it also increased his sex drive, and that coupled with the increase of selfishness (sin) in the world, are what motivate men to sow their wild oats.

Women, being physically weaker had to submit themselves to their husband's protection. God cursed Eve "Though your desire will be for your husband, he will be your master." (Genesis 3:16b) The complementary partnership that God intended the marital relationship to be was ruined. Much strife between man and woman is the natural desire to live out what they were intended for in a world where Paradise no longer exists.

 

[Said1]

it's a whole different culture as some have stated.

While that's probably true, I know several men who behave that way. Their wives are for one thing, and "women" are for another. Their children are very messed up too.

 

[dilloduck]

While that's probably true, I know several men who behave that way. Their wives are for one thing, and "women" are for another. Their children are very messed up.

Oh ya---I've seen them here too. When parents aren't on pretty much the same page, it's always the kids who suffer the most. I do think however that bonding can be achieved with your children---even if the parents are divorced.

 

[Annie]

While that's probably true, I know several men who behave that way. Their wives are for one thing, and "women" are for another. Their children are very messed up too.

Sounds a lot like my ex. :teeth: "I don't want a divorce, but I want to do..."

He managed to get a judge to demand a psychiatric evaluation for him, after responding, "I'll pay what I'm ordered to pay, but no more. What good have the kids done for me? They don't want to see me, spend time with me, they won't come to family gatherings which have caused me to be uncomfortable with family members..." The children were 6, 8, 9. They weren't doing 'anything' for him.

 

[Said1]

Oh ya---I've seen them here too. When parents aren't on pretty much the same page, it's always the kids who suffer the most. I do think however that bonding can be achieved with your children---even if the parents are divorced.

I think they can bond too. I should have been clearer, I meant their children are in really bad relationships, especially their daughters. Their sons of course act like them.

 

[dilloduck]

I think they can bond too. I should have been clearer, I meant their children are in really bad relationships, especially their daughters. Their sons of course act like them.

Usually--- but I've seen some boys who detest their fathers for either real or implanted reasons.

 

[Said1]

Usually--- but I've seen some boys who detest their fathers for either real or implanted reasons.

Oh sure, but in the end they wind up more like them than not. In my experiences anyway.

 

[dilloduck]

Oh sure, but in the end they wind up more like them than not. In my experiences anyway.

Takes all kinds---guess that's why they say be careful in selecting a mate.

 

[Said1]

Takes all kinds---guess that's why they say be careful in selecting a mate.

Hmmm, my fortune cookie never said that.

 

[dilloduck]

Hmmm, my fortune cookie never said that.

Damn commie chinese totally ruined your life---those bastards !!! :bat:

 

[Trinity]

Takes all kinds---guess that's why they say be careful in selecting a mate.

No shit!! or you may pay dearly!

 

[dilloduck]

No shit!! or you may pay dearly!

LOLI already have but I can still try to warn others. Seems like we have a lot with that experience already here though

 

[Trinity]

LOLI already have but I can still try to warn others. Seems like we have a lot with that experience already here though

Yeah I think so! and I am paying now! :bangheads

 

[dilloduck]

Yeah I think so! and I am paying now! :bangheads

LOL sorry to hear it---it's a bitch ain't it ? oh well--some days are better than others.

 

[Trinity]

LOL sorry to hear it---it's a bitch ain't it ? oh well--some days are better than others.

Yeah it is!

 

[Avatar4321]

sex begins in the kitchen... or, er-- the woodshop!

Note to self: get a woodshop

 

[dilloduck]

Note to self: get a woodshop

a word of caution--"splinters"

 

[Avatar4321]

a word of caution--"splinters"

Now who said there would be any wood there:

 

[dilloduck]

Now who said there would be any wood there:

ahhhhhhhhhhh the old rubber woodshop !!! :teeth: