The old timers here know me, don't necessarily like me, but should know me. I'm close to the mid century mark. I'm a single mom, with 2 kids in college, one now out-just 1 semester shy of graduation. For the math challenged, I have 3 kids-20-24. 2 boys, 20 and 22. One girl, 24. I teach middle school social studies, in a parochial school. I have my dad living with me, 84 years old, 85 in Dec. He's the legacy of my mom, who died 2 years ago, after a long term series of illnesses. She lived with me too, for about 2 years, with a full time nurse. She left my dad with me, the nurse returned to the Ukraine. Many are in my quandry, more or less. The parents may not be living in your home, but your lives are affected by their medical/psycho problems. Yet, there are children to be dealt with. It may be easier to deal with if the marriage is in tact, I wouldn't know, but in any case, pretty tough to be dealing with the kids and older folks at the same time.